why do men do this and do women too??

Any match who I've gotten to the phone call or dating stage seems to be the complete opposite of their profile. It's like they describe themselves with all of the qualities that they aspire to be but aren't or what they believe women want to hear. You're not honorable or romantic when you tell me you're going to call and don't or when you completely blow me off after weeks of dating and then act like nothing's wrong the next time we speak. What gives? I'm very honest on my profile and I accept my matches to be also, but it's very discouraging that they're not. I'm not even including the men who add inches to there height...when you lie about the obvious...that's another topic that's been beaten to death, but it is another example of the fudging/lying I find on profiles.

Any match who I've gotten to the phone call or dating stage seems to be the complete opposite of their profile. It's like they describe themselves with all of the qualities that they aspire to be but aren't or what they believe women want to hear. You're not honorable or romantic when you tell me you're going to call and don't or when you completely blow me off after weeks of dating and then act like nothing's wrong the next time we speak. What gives? I'm very honest on my profile and I accept my matches to be also, but it's very discouraging that they're not. I'm not even including the men who add inches to there height...when you lie about the obvious...that's another topic that's been beaten to death, but it is another example of the fudging/lying I find on profiles.

Everyone will do these things at some point. People are not perfect. I laugh at profiles that adamantly demand 100% of things like honesty. Its naive, especially if you choose a match based on the superficial elements in the profile. You've assumed the cover makes the book. 85-90% is probably the somewhat ideal to find with something like honesty...eventually that range might open up a little higher with time and trust. Even that might be hopeful though.

Things like a height fib are just one among many items people get insecure about. I haven't, as of yet lol, lied about my height on a profile. I'm 5'2-5'3. I'm used to many dozens of profiles on more than one site now coldly leaving me hanging or sending me not interested link notices. I'm an observant guy and eventually, the events around you (Hardly on just online sites) do not lie. Sure I could be blissfully confident, so on and so on, but I'm also a realist and proud of it!

Saying that you're 100% honest in your profile, actually in my opinion, probably is not helping you. Don't make promises you cannot keep, as some old saying went and there is no guarantee you can make of your words on profile. Or if you're believed, it may draw unwanted matches, like you've made clear on here. Personally, I'd drop 100% promises which are quite overused and cliche and tell about your personal interests and activities instead. Look human rather than perfect. Of course thats just my opinion, FWIW!