tincup is offline tincup Post #1  October 14,2010, 9:48pm
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I just want to throw a short rant out there and let people respond as they see fit. I have seen so many pictures where people have just cut a significant other out and you just see an arm wrapped around a shoulder. Or in some cases, the person doesn't even go through the trouble to crop. I get mildly annoyed and mutter nasty things under my breadth every time I see this. It somehow is offensive and disrespectful. It opens the door for questions like: "how do I compare physically with the ex?" "why are you showing me your ex?" "Are you over your ex?"

Does anyone else share this frustration?

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It's a downright turn-off when it's obvious. It seems careless. I've closed quite a few like that.
 
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I think it is really just laziness, on their part, pretty much.

No picture at all is even worse, or trying to conceal something.

Then there the ones where 10 people are in the picture; or wearing sunglasses in every single photo; or the pic's are tiny or blurred; or 10 years old, or pictures of irrelevant scenery, cities, pets, or posessions that are a waste of time to look at.


People are so clueless a lot of the time, so YOU have the option to be even lazier and more impatient, and just click to the next one.
 
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I think it is really just laziness, on their part, pretty much.

No picture at all is even worse, or trying to conceal something.

Then there the ones where 10 people are in the picture; or wearing sunglasses in every single photo; or the pic's are tiny or blurred; or 10 years old, or pictures of irrelevant scenery, cities, pets, or posessions that are a waste of time to look at.


People are so clueless a lot of the time, so YOU have the option to be even lazier and more impatient, and just click to the next one.
I had completely forgotten about the multi-person peeve. Great point. When there are 10 people and they don't caption to say which one they are! Also terribly annoying....
 
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I've had a match dressed in a tux with enough ofnhis ex showing for me to see it was a wedding photo. I closed it imediately. What was he thinking?
 
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It always make me wonder why they wouldn't have a better picture to post but doesn't really bother me.
 
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tincup wrote :
I just want to throw a short rant out there and let people respond as they see fit. I have seen so many pictures where people have just cut a significant other out and you just see an arm wrapped around a shoulder. Or in some cases, the person doesn't even go through the trouble to crop. I get mildly annoyed and mutter nasty things under my breadth every time I see this. It somehow is offensive and disrespectful. It opens the door for questions like: "how do I compare physically with the ex?" "why are you showing me your ex?" "Are you over your ex?"

Does anyone else share this frustration?

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Not condoning bad pictures. However the reality is that a lot of people don't have a ton of great shots of themselves lying around so they are simply opting to post what's immediately available.

Your attitude in bold above is actually indicative of serious personal insecurities. Something you might want to think about and work on. It's a lot more problematic than matches posting bad pics.
 
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Your attitude in bold above is actually indicative of serious personal insecurities. Something you might want to think about and work on. It's a lot more problematic than matches posting bad pics.

That is merely your own personal conclusion about the psychological state of the person, which is utterly inappropriate, offensive and presumptuous for this discussion..
 
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It always make me wonder why they wouldn't have a better picture to post but doesn't really bother me.
This. The only pics that really bother me (and I don't mean to offend anyone when I say this) are the ones where he's not wearing a shirt. It's a class thing for me. I mean, assuming we meet AND things work out, we'll get to that. Besides, I'm wearing a shirt in all of my pics...
 
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This. The only pics that really bother me (and I don't mean to offend anyone when I say this) are the ones where he's not wearing a shirt. It's a class thing for me. I mean, assuming we meet AND things work out, we'll get to that. Besides, I'm wearing a shirt in all of my pics...
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