Matching on Physical Attractiveness: How is it done?


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beebee111 is offline beebee111 Post #1  October 14,2010, 6:22pm
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I'm curious as to how EH matches people based on physical attractiveness. I do not recall answering questions about my perceived level of physical attractiveness. Does someone look at all the photos and rank you on a scale of 1-10 or something?

I have received over 45 matches in my 4 days on EH. Only 1 has contacted me (communication ended after first questions). I have contacted 2 who are yet to reply or will never reply.

The things is, almost without exception the guys I am matched with would be considered between 'above average' and 'really hot.' I haven't had a single overweight person. Naturally I'm more attracted to some than others but still . . . .

Am I missing out on some average looking dudes, with whom I may be highly compatible? I don't generally seek out the "hot" guys. I have been told by some that I am really attractive but I have a unique look. It may just not appeal to some guys. I have never felt that I am in the "super hot" category but those are the guys being thrown my way.

I really want intellectual and emotional compatibility above all else. Anyway, I'm just ranting. Let me know your thoughts on this.
 
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beebee111 wrote :
I'm curious as to how EH matches people based on physical attractiveness. I do not recall answering questions about my perceived level of physical attractiveness. Does someone look at all the photos and rank you on a scale of 1-10 or something?

I have received over 45 matches in my 4 days on EH. Only 1 has contacted me (communication ended after first questions). I have contacted 2 who are yet to reply or will never reply.

The things is, almost without exception the guys I am matched with would be considered between 'above average' and 'really hot.' I haven't had a single overweight person. Naturally I'm more attracted to some than others but still . . . .

Am I missing out on some average looking dudes, with whom I may be highly compatible? I don't generally seek out the "hot" guys. I have been told by some that I am really attractive but I have a unique look. It may just not appeal to some guys. I have never felt that I am in the "super hot" category but those are the guys being thrown my way.

I really want intellectual and emotional compatibility above all else. Anyway, I'm just ranting. Let me know your thoughts on this.
LOL!

That’s funny because I get the exact opposite.

Like you I consider myself attractive, but I mostly get guys that are average or below.

I generally prefer men that are older (as long as I fall in the half their age plus 7 rule), but one of my must have is that they are physically fit. They seem to all be either health nuts or complete couch potatoes with nothing in between, LOL!

Here’s what I think.

e-Harmony should use a face recognition algorithm similar to Law Enforcement. Seriously, think of how popular they would become if they were the first dating site to actually pull this off! When you first sign up they show you some pictures of like 20 models that illustrate the basic face shapes and features and you tell the algorithm what you find attractive. Then the website only sends you people whose facial features and body types meet those criteria. Cool, huh? They should probably charge more for that because a lot of people like eH just like it is. This would be mainly for people who say looks are really important or who want more control over what’s in their inbox.

So when is e-Harmony going to do that?
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Go to your settings.. under my settings click the match me with average dude button, then move the slide ruler to very important.. just kidding


I don't believe there is any type of ratings or questions from the questionnaire that addressed physical attractiveness. I know there is one in the MH/CS.. but it's subjective.


anyways.. many people would love to have your problem.. it's either luck or your dating pool is all good looking folks..
 
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Diana_P wrote :
So when is e-Harmony going to do that?
right after they create the virtual dating interface..
 
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TrekRyder10 wrote :
right after they create the virtual dating interface..
Hey it could happen. Maybe they'll let you and me trial it for free since we thought it up?
 
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TrekRyder10 wrote :
right after they create the virtual dating interface..
isn't that 2nd life?
 
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Dafearon wrote :
isn't that 2nd life?
Yes.. Diana_P and I were discussing it in her thread

What futuristic advancements would you recommend for our favorite dating site, eHarmony?
 
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I think it's just coincidence, I don't think eH matches on physical appearance at all.
 
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Haha. It probably is a coincidence or just my "low standards" in terms of what is physically attractive. I guess it just doesn't matter that much to me. This kind of stuff is so subjective anyway.
 
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This is correct.

EHarmony does NOT do any Physical Attractiveness matching or comparison for Matching.

However, there IS (or used to be), a question given during the questionnaire about how you view yourself, attractiveness-wise, as well as what you are looking for in a partner attractiveness-wise.

I suspect EHarmony does figure those answers into how they determine Matches.

I actually have wondered if it is a double-edged sword...

Because on one hand, if you think you are attractive, and you want someone attractive, this is something that can be matched upon...

However, do you really want to be matched upon this?

Perhaps EHarmony actually treats that answer as a level of vanity and "stuck-up-ness", and matches people that answer like that with others that are also vain and stuck-up?

I think we have all met people like that, who walk around with their nose a little bit higher than everyone else...
Sure, they might be good looking, but with some of those people, you also gain a snobness factor that I would not be pleased to have in a partner.
 
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