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RebornInFire is offline RebornInFire Post #1  October 13,2010, 6:31pm
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Suppose you finally get to OC.

Any of you have a job where you know the second you describe it you know there is a 90% chance you will never hear from them again? It's not that I make poor money, though I wouldn't say I make great money either. I live comfortably. Nope, my downfall seems to be my work travel which is about 30%. I recently got to OC with two women I really liked...both have not responded since I described what I do for a living. That seems to be par for the course--just poof and hope I go away.

Women, with the exception of the adult entertainment industry (which we covered in a long thread recently) do any of you think a man went poof strictly on your job description?

Likewise, what do you do if you were in one of my match's shoes. Photos...passes muster. Nice profile...passes muster. Job title kind of generic--sounds like he has responsibility though and oversees things--thinks to self must find out what he does. Get to OC and find out he is on the road 30% of the time--or decide his job doesn't have the status you are looking for. Be honest..do you poof? Have you ever responded back saying you didn't think you were a good match? Do you hit the close button (the option I would prefer, no sense in having me check in everyday to see if you responded if a response isn't coming).
 
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If he's interesting otherwise, I don't think there are any jobs that would immediately make me want to close the match. Usually a job is just a small portion of who a person is. But your question makes me curious about what you do!
 
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In a nutshell...I'm an IT hired gun for trade shows and professional meetings.
 
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cloudkicka is offline cloudkicka Post #4  October 13,2010, 7:13pm
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My career and job seems to have a high divorce and break up rate. There is no planning, or scheduling the person needs to be very understanding, trusting and flexible. I am cautious about telling people what I do cause I don't want to be used again.
 
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My career and job seems to have a high divorce and break up rate. There is no planning, or scheduling the person needs to be very understanding, trusting and flexible. I am cautious about telling people what I do cause I don't want to be used again.
Your post creates more questions than it does answers. How do you navigate an online dating site without divulging your profession? It's usually asked within the first 3 OC missives--sometimes in the short answer section. You talk about being used..despite your career having a high divorce rate, does your job interest women, or drive them away in your experience?
 
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Re, I am in the same field and travel about 60% of the time. I've never been closed or had a relationship stall out because of it.
 
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I'm not sure about the details of your job -- but why don't you just put it upfront in your profile? If you think it's going to be a dealbreaker for some, probably better to go ahead and get it out of the way.

If it's just the travel issue, I can't imagine it being a dealbreaker for all women. I know lots of people who spend a great deal of time traveling for work -- it can be challenging but they do make relationships work.

I've had matches who stated something along those lines in their profile -- i.e. travel a lot for work, irregular schedule, etc. I'd rather know upfront.
 
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Re, I am in the same field and travel about 60% of the time. I've never been closed or had a relationship stall out because of it.
Dang. 60%!!!! Well, there goes my theory. Maybe I'm just hideously ugly and they are checking to make sure I'm not a billionaire first.

No, seriously, I'm wondering if I should even keep doing this. I've accumulated enough data points that I know it isn't just a streak of bad luck.
 
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TrekRyder10 is offline TrekRyder10 Post #9  October 13,2010, 8:16pm
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IDK.. my location might have alot to do with it, most of my matches either travel or commute into nyc, so that could be a factor.


I would take blrdancer suggestions and put it your profile. I have in mine and added a little humor to it. basically making fun of myself..
 
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Personally RF, if I've got your attention when you're not travelling, then I'm OK with when you ARE travelling
 
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