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vasweetie05 is offline vasweetie05 Post #1  October 13,2010, 5:04pm
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I want to know what went wrong. I went through all of the communication stages on the website. After we did eharmony mail for a couple of days, he provided his phone number. I called two days later. We were on the phone for two hours.I definitely made sure I was not doing all the talking. I was actually ready to get off the phone and he kept talking and asking questions and sharing ideas, so I continued the coversation. My cell phone was going dead and I notified him of that. We both stated we really enjoyed talking to each other and I haven't heard from him in a week. Even though we had good conversation on the phone for a couple hours, does this mean he is definitely not interested?

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i think its that you were on the phone for two hours and then you explained to him why you had to get off of it.

first phone calls should be short. first meets might be 2 hours but a first phone call should be maybe 10 minutes.
 
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Was any meeting plan discussed during this Phone Call of Egregious Size?

If not, I would make a call during this week to set / sugggest a meeting plan for Friday or Saturday.

Any reply other than acceptance (or a counterproposal with a specific plan) I would abandon interest in this person.
 
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dont call him.

he probably isnt that interested in you if he hasnt called. i mean, you made the first phone call to him. i would have never done that in the first place. if you did it for safety reasons i would get a pay as you go throwaway phone.
 
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Thanks guys!!
 
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vasweetie05 wrote :
We both stated we really enjoyed talking to each other and I haven't heard from him in a week. Even though we had good conversation on the phone for a couple hours, does this mean he is definitely not interested?

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I don't think he is interested..and he's got your number.
I know I don't wait that long to call.
 
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Well technically he did call me first, but it was after I sent a text. That was definitely outside the box for me, but so is this whole online dating thing. I just signed up. Its definitely different. This short lived experience has been interesting.
 
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vasweetie05 wrote :
Well technically he did call me first, but it was after I sent a text. That was definitely outside the box for me, but so is this whole online dating thing. I just signed up. Its definitely different. This short lived experience has been interesting.
And don't ever put all your eggs in one basket with online dating.
That's as succinct as I can be in regard to the whole experience, thus far.
 
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D_Lion wrote :
Was any meeting plan discussed during this Phone Call of Egregious Size?
Ha!

Followed by the Phone Call of Interminable Length?

(PS - I do not mean to pick on the OP in any way -I just thought D_Lion's comment was funny).

OP - hang in there - maybe the phone call was a little long - if you guys live close, you should meet as soon as you feel comfortable. You could send him a little note and ask him how he's doing. If he doesn't reply -you know he's not interested.
 
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Don't bother contacting him, he's not into you. If he were you two would have made further plans to meet. Move on.


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