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Diana_P is offline Diana_P Post #1  October 13,2010, 4:35pm
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If the technology existed what futuristic advancements would you recommend for our favorite dating site, eHarmony?

I think people struggle with not only finding a date, but knowing how to conduct themselves on a date. eH has a lot of helpful advice and was really smart to create this board, but I’d like to take “remedial dating 101” to the next level.

Wouldn’t it be cool if eH created a virtual environment where you could go on a “practice” date with your match before wasting the time and energy to meet him or her in person? Okay, I know all you men out there are thinking, “no that wouldn’t be cool because you can’t get physical with a computer.” Well, that’s not really true, but I won’t go there, LOL!

What I have in mind is an interactive tutorial where you and your date are introduced to a variety of different situations that both tests your dating skills and measures your compatibility as a couple. For example, you and your date walk into a virtual restaurant, do you pull out her chair? The waiter brings the check, do you offer to pay half or the whole thing? There are hundreds of thousands of people logged on to this forum right now who are here not just because their dating skills are lacking but because their interpersonal skills are nearly nonexistent as well. We could all be in a virtual environment re-learning how to talk to people in person. Please no comments on the irony of that statement, LOL.

Naturally if you are an expert dater this wouldn’t appeal to you, but keep in mind that most of the people who are here are far more comfortable behind a computer screen than in their own skin. Something that can help them regain their confidence BEFORE meeting the love of their life would be invaluable to them.

At the end of your virtual date, the super-scientific dating behavior algorithm comes back and says all the things you did right and all the things you did wrong. It also gets feed back from your human date on the other end of your computer screen as she rates your choice of dating venues, conversation topics, and virtual attire. Let’s face it, some folks REALLY need help with all of this stuff - - badly!

Okay, making this virtual date tutorial is probably something eH could do in real life. What’d you think I was going to suggest, beaming three dimensional holographic dates into your home? LOL! Hmmmmm could they do that too?

Okay, now it’s your turn! What are your thoughts?
 
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IDK.. to me it's creepy..

eH wrote an article about it not too long ago..
Would You Go on a Virtual Date

Don't they have virtual dating with 2nd life or whatever it's called?


IMO people struggle because they follow "the rules" watch too many movies, read too many romance novel and have too high of expectations..

The main reason some people have lost their interpersonal skills is because they were hiding behind the computer in the first place..
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TrekRyder10 wrote :
IDK.. to me it's creepy..

eH wrote an article about it not too long ago..
Would You Go on a Virtual Date

Do they kind of have virtual dating with 2nd life or whatever it's called.
Yeah, if the site looked like the on in your link it would be creepy. I was thinking more along the lines of avatars and 3D-graphics comparable to high quality video games. Plus, the real value would be interaction with possible real life situations and not just two figures talking to each other.

There are some people who have actually never been on a date before or who have been on very few dates. They don't know what to wear, how to plan a date, or what to do once they are on a date.
 
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I'd rather see them concentrate on efforts like making sure they match with paying members and showing match activity by giving some sort of a last login.
 
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I'd rather see them concentrate on efforts like making sure they match with paying members and showing match activity by giving some sort of a last login.
Yes, date of last login would be helpful.

Maybe they could extend the length of promotional time for any free member who actually engages in communication with a paying member. That would be cool. That would actually add value to the service for everyone because the free member would see the service actually works and would be more inclined to become a paying member. Do you agree?

No furturistic advancements? Not one? Wow, eH you're ahead of your time!
 
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Yeah, if the site looked like the on in your link it would be creepy. I was thinking more along the lines of avatars and 3D-graphics comparable to high quality video games. Plus, the real value would be interaction with possible real life situations and not just two figures talking to each other.
doesn't get anymore 3D than that Virtual Worlds, Avatars, free 3D chat, online meetings - Second Life Official Site
 
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Maybe they could extend the length of promotional time for any free member who actually engages in communication with a paying member. That would be cool. That would actually add value to the service for everyone because the free member would see the service actually works and would be more inclined to become a paying member. Do you agree?
Giving free members more privileges is an insult to paying subscribers. I'd rather them show an NPM a single photo and in order to communicate they have to pay, people eat with their eyes.

paying sites are becoming more afforable, because more and more free sites are popping up. The stigma that comes with them will soon disappear. This is why EH renewal is around $4.95.
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TrekRyder10 wrote :
doesn't get anymore 3D than that Virtual Worlds, Avatars, free 3D chat, online meetings - Second Life Official Site
Yeah, that's pretty cool looking, but it seems fantasy based. The eH version needs to be closer to a model of real life and constructed so that it can actually "teach" people how to improve their dating and interpersonal skills. Without guidance, if you bomb in real life you are going to bomb in the virtual world so just having a virtual environment by itself won't help.
 
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TrekRyder10 wrote :
Giving free members more privileges is an insult to paying subscribers. I'd rather them show an NPM a single photo and in order to communicate they have to pay, people eat with their eyes.

paying sites are becoming more afforable, because more and more free sites are popping up. The stigma that comes with them will soon disappear. This is why EH renewal is around $4.95.
I do get what you are saying about the NPM, but here's my deal.

I've seen the adds on TV that try to entice people to meet their match for free for a weekend. Well, if you are a paying member you may not check your email all weekend long so Monday you've got a bunch of NPM in your in box you can't communicate with. That's frustrating to me. First, I don't think they should be able to join free or otherwise if they don't post a picture. Second, those promotions are ran for the benefit of paying members so make it benefit us by allowing us to talk with them! Satisfied paying members have to be eH's biggest endorsement, right? I don't know? Just my thoughts.
 
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I've seen the adds on TV that try to entice people to meet their match for free for a weekend. Well, if you are a paying member you may not check your email all weekend long so Monday you've got a bunch of NPM in your in box you can't communicate with. That's frustrating to me.
it's all in the marketing this is why the FCW's are usually on or around holiday weekends, people are not there to communicate. it's a lost leader..

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First, I don't think they should be able to join free or otherwise if they don't post a picture. Second, those promotions are ran for the benefit of paying members so make it benefit us by allowing us to talk with them! Satisfied paying members have to be eH's biggest endorsement, right? I don't know? Just my thoughts.
The promotions are not run for the paying members, they are run to turn over the membership. We are dangled like a carrot to entice the lovestruck commercial junkies to join.

I don't mind the NPM who use it on FCW's, what I do have an issue with is the dead inactive profile we get sent daily. They need a better system to deactivate those who do not log-in at all. I received a profile recently that stated the matches subscription ended in 2008

IDK I see a lot of paying members (posters here) say they now turn-off matching on FCW because nothing even becomes of the matches..

Google an article "why you should never pay for online dating" (by okc) if might make you think differently about the real number of profiles on here.

Sorry if I sound jaded but I've been member (on & off) since 2004.. and if I told you my numbers your jaw would drop. I have no problems on other sites.
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