YellowUmbrella is offline YellowUmbrella Post #1  October 13,2010, 7:58am
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I just got a match a few days ago: no photo, sparsely filled out profile. So I nudged for a photo.

Today I get sent an icebreaker from the match. Still no photo, and no 1st questions. Is this a free-account user? CAN he upload a photo or is he unable to, and I guess he can't start up any communication except icebreakers?
 
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Probably a freeloader and an inexperienced one to boot. Sure, he can upload photos but probably hasn't figured it all out yet.

If his profile was so sparse, what was it that interested you?
 
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YellowUmbrella wrote :
I just got a match a few days ago: no photo, sparsely filled out profile. So I nudged for a photo.

Today I get sent an icebreaker from the match. Still no photo, and no 1st questions. Is this a free-account user? CAN he upload a photo or is he unable to, and I guess he can't start up any communication except icebreakers?
I do believe NPM can upload pics, but can't see yours.

ice-breakers are usually a sign of NPM, not always. really only one way to find out..

then again I don't waste time trying to get people to load a photo.. no photo no communication.. especially after I nudge or use the photo IB.. I'll let'em sit in the archive folder.
 
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Hmm what interested me? Well I just recently found out one of my favorite matches was a NPM that joined up for the FCW. His was sparsely filled but it had enough for me to get a sense. He also had a picture though. He was very articulate and detailed in the communication stages though. So I guess based on that I figured I'd nudge for a photo with this match and see what happened. Seems though that that never works. I'll think on this but I'm tempted to close this one out.

Edit: I'm curious though, how would communication even work with a NPM? Do we just nudge and flail and send icebreakers back and forth for eternity? lol
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Don't close him out yet if there's something promising in his profile. But I wouldn't go any further with him until he posts a photo. Just let it sit awhile and see what happens. You nudged him for a photo - if he doesn't comply by the next FCW, move him to the archive.
 
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Can NPMs fill out their profiles completely or are they only given a few fields? I admit I have no idea how this works.

I'll check back to see if he puts up a photo.
 
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Yes; they can create a complete profile (and in fact, even paying members typically do this before they actually subscribe).

He just can't see your photo or engage in guided communication (unless it's a FCW).
 
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Hi YellowUmbrella,

I know it feels like a risk communicating with someone who has a sparse profile and no photos, but if that’s the case, if you’re looking for someone special, in my opinion it’s better to err on the side of open-mindedness rather than premature closure based on what you don’t yet know. It would be different if their profile revealed a glaring deal-breaker. An example of this would be that they state they have cats and you’re allergic to cats.

I say this because I know a lot of people who have gotten married or met their partner through eHarmony and took a chance to communicate before seeing a photo. These people are of course not disappointed!

It could turn out that you aren’t attracted to this match once you know what they look like. But at least you explored it.

Regarding the sparse profiles – sometimes people just aren’t quick on the draw at filling them out, or they communicate better over the phone/in person than through writing.

Good luck to you!

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Kate- it sounds like he can't communicate with her! So, how is she supposed to keep this going?
 
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Kate- it sounds like he can't communicate with her! So, how is she supposed to keep this going?
 
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