natureluv047 is offline natureluv047 Post #1  October 12,2010, 7:59pm
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How does one know if a first date is successful and may lead to a second date?
 
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Take all the guessing out of it, at the end of the 1st ask for a 2nd.
 
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This is going to sound flip (which I don't mean it to be) -- but the only way to know is if a second date actually happens. Meaning you (or she) asks for a 2nd date, the other person accepts and both follow through.

I know you're probably looking for some magic signal (aren't we all) but I think we've all been victims of misreading signs. I've been on dates that I thought went great - and never heard a word. I've gone on dates that I thought were horrible - yet apparently the other person had a great time. At different times, I've asked for a 2nd date and been rejected - I've waited to be asked and heard silence and have other times had to politely decline a 2nd date.

You'll cut out a whole lot time wasted and second guessing by just going ahead and asking (assuming you are interested).
 
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natureluv047 wrote :
How does one know if a first date is successful and may lead to a second date?
TrekRyder10 wrote :
Take all the guessing out of it, at the end of the 1st ask for a 2nd.
^ This.

Always, always, always have a couple options for the next date and firm something up before the first date ends. Always.
 
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tweet37 wrote :
^ This.

Always, always, always have a couple options for the next date and firm something up before the first date ends. Always.
I think nailing down a day is all that needs to be done, planning out an entire date before hand, imo would be like handing her a photoshopped picture of what our kids would look like..

Unless of course, it was an event or place discussed during the first date,, if things are going well and you know it.. you could suggest it while still on the date. I've had women do this. It's a good feeling when it happens.
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Hi Natureluv047,

It's great that you've had a date! I agree that the only way to know for sure if it went well is to test the waters by asking for a 2nd date. I've heard a lot of stories about "bad" first dates...who turned out to be the right match!

I can't think of any specific article that applies to your situation, but you might want to browse around the articles through this link: Finding love, love advice : eHarmony Advice

One of them might provide some insight.

Good luck and keep us posted!

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A lot can happen between the first and second date, even if you do set a time for the 2nd date.

Both of you get to come back to reality and think about the date and let everything settle. If something bothered either one of you, it may prevent the other form pursuing the second date.

But don't worry about that. There's really nothing you can do other than have confidence that if it's meant to be, it will happen. if not, you had a good first date and learned something more about yourself and dating.

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