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PJG1901 is offline PJG1901 Post #1  October 11,2010, 10:43pm
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Hello all, I'm starting to wonder if I'm being too vague or uninteresting in my profile statements, and I was wondering if I could get some feedback. I'm a 28 year old male, and here it is:


The one thing I am most passionate about:
I love to cook for other people, and I really love watching their reactions to what I make. I love sticking with my sports teams no matter what, I'm the only person I've met who can follow the Texas Rangers year round without saying they suck. I also love The Dallas Cowboys and Oklahoma Sooners. I love big dogs, and regret having to work so much that I really can't get one. I love skiing and snowboarding - not just the sport, but the whole …

I love to cook for other people, and I really love watching their reactions to what I make. I love sticking with my sports teams no matter what, I'm the only person I've met who can follow the Texas Rangers year round without saying they suck. I also love The Dallas Cowboys and Oklahoma Sooners. I love big dogs, and regret having to work so much that I really can't get one. I love skiing and snowboarding - not just the sport, but the whole experience of being in a snowy mountain town. I want no regrets in life, and this makes me passionate about getting out there and living!

The most important thing I am looking for in a person is:
I am looking for someone who likes to go out to sporting events, and who’d be interested in finding new places to explore and experience with me. I want someone who can have as much fun staying in and relaxing as she can going out; this is hugely important to me because I feel that if you can’t simply enjoy your time together, in any situation, then a relationship will not work.

The most influential person in my life has been:

I had a youth minister growing up that was a really big influence on my life. He did a great job of keeping up with all of the young people in the church, and was a great example for us. Every year when I was in high school we would go on a youth group trip to this little town in Colorado, where we’d go backpacking through the mountains for a week at a time. It was such a great experience and he was always able to teach us about ourselves and about life while we were out there.

The one thing I wish MORE people would notice about me:

I tend to joke around a lot, and so people might miss my desire to grow as a person. I push myself every day to improve, whether it be at work as well as in my personal life. I have a constant desire to be better; I have a constant desire to try things I've never tried before, to go out and find adventure and to go places I've never seen. I ran my first 5k in March and while I wasn't exactly breaking any records, I considered it a benchmark. I'm going to try to do one every three months to kind of keep myself working. I don’t usually talk about myself or what it is I’m doing – I just go out there and do it!

The things I can't live without are:

My Family
My Friends
Football
Music
A yard

I typically spend my leisure time:

I have a variety of hobbies from building furniture and brewing beer to wakeboarding, snowboarding, and playing the guitar. I’ve played football, softball, and kickball and by far, love watching a great baseball game. I also love spending time with my friends when the opportunity presents itself, and traveling. So far, I’ve been everywhere from Mexico and The Dominican Republic to Paris, England, Scotland, and Hawaii. I would love to see The Grand Canyon, Ireland, Australia, and parts of Asia to name a few. I also really enjoy a good movie, and see it as an escape from reality; my favorites are comedies and any of the comic book movies.

he last book I read and enjoyed:

The last book I read was "The Lost Symbol" by Dan Brown. Parts of it were kind of cheesy, but overall it was a good read. This book is the sequel to The Davinci Code, where the main character is tracking down a hidden pyramid in Washington DC. I'm not fully sold on the whole “Dan Brown is awesome” movement just yet.
 
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Hi Pjg1901,

I don’t think you’re too vague at all – you’ve included a lot of solid, specific information that is going to set you apart with your matches.

I think it’s excellent that you’ve included all the information about football, and to me, it’s a good thing to put that you’re looking for someone who would enjoy sporting events with you, because this isn’t something cliché that everyone asks for.

There are places, however, where you’ve mentioned it again where you could either replace it with new information or even make a little nod that you’re repeating the information. For example, in the “things you can’t live without” you mentioned football. This might be a good chance to add a little humor, e.g., “you guessed it, football,” or something along those lines.

The “what you’re most passionate about” section is good and specific, but some of those things are more what you might include in the leisure time section (as you have). This is just my opinion. I think that it works as-is.

You are definitely set up to attract the football fans! Overall, I really like the tone because it’s friendly, conversational, and engaging. I don’t know if you’ve written something in the sections “what people first notice” and “what you wish they would notice”, but those are just more chances to demonstrate to your matches what you have to offer the right woman.

I think that’s something you should really bear in mind – you’re very specific on your profile and therefore, you will draw a more specific kind of match into communicating. So if you’re getting less communication/responses, that may be why. And that’s not necessarily a bad thing at all! You’re doing the right things to attract the right ones.

Good luck, Pjg1901,

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ami1uwant is offline ami1uwant Post #3  October 12,2010, 1:24pm
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I am a guy...so you can take what I say with a grain of salt....

What are your matching criteria based on age and distance?

What do you say about smoking drinking and kids?

Your photos may be an issue.

What do you list as your career?
 
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PJG1901 is offline PJG1901 Post #4  October 15,2010, 9:09pm
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Well I answered honestly with distance and whatnot.

I don't want a smoker and I don't want to date someone with kids...so I won't change that.

I've listed what I really do...so I don't see why I would change that. What's the point of lying when you have to come clean at some point...besides I like my job

And as far as smoking goes....I don't want to date a smoker...so I'm sticking to my guns on that. I'm talking about the actual personality stuff once you get past the basic facts. I'm not gonna lie to someone. What's the point. I'm not trying to get laid. I'm looking for a steady relationship.
 
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