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afriendly is offline afriendly Post #1  October 11,2010, 10:37pm
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On one of the matches, I nudged last Monday at stage 2. She moved forward with stage 2 and asked me questions as stage 3, but did not respond to mine. I sent the questions on Thursday, she looked at them Thursday and then again on Friday, but never replied.

Should I nudge her again or let it swing in the wind cause she doesn't seem very interested? I feel nudging means little interest. No?
 
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CestMoi is offline CestMoi Post #2  October 11,2010, 10:50pm
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I wouldn't nudge again. The ball is in her court IMO.
 
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FruitaBu is offline FruitaBu Post #3  October 12,2010, 4:31am
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Stage 3 seems to be a make or break stage. This is where people have to take a little time and type out an answer and I think it is an indication of their interest level. I would not do a nudge. She knows you are there.
 
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No, I would not nudge - and I wouldn't necessarily assume disinterest. You're really only talking about a few days here, right?

The fact is, Stage 3 answers do take longer to respond to (especially if you're putting thought into them.) It's not unusual for me to quickly log in to see the questions and then put them off for a later date when I have the time.
 
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tweet37 is offline tweet37 Post #5  October 12,2010, 8:04am
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I'd just wait awhile until your goatee grows in better.
 
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Wait it out. If she wants to reply she will.
 
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Will do. However, I was able to answer her's with detailed answers the next day. Not saying, just saying.
 
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PY_2 is offline PY_2 Post #8  October 12,2010, 9:40am

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afriendly wrote :
Will do. However, I was able to answer her's with detailed answers the next day. Not saying, just saying.
So what are you saying?
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If you don't get a reply within 24 hours, 99% chance you aren't gonna get one. Nudge after the 7 days (that's as soon as eharmony lets you do it) sure, no loss, most likely they will never reply either way.

I dunno what planet people who talk about waiting days/weeks for a reply are from. If someone is interested they aren't gonna wait days/weeks to type out a few words, they will do it at the first opportunity. That is, unless they are "playing games", in which case they aren't worth pursuing.
 
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YellowUmbrella is offline YellowUmbrella Post #10  October 13,2010, 8:17am
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Ahhh yeah.. it's frustrating isn't it?
I tend to move through communications fairly quickly but I admit when I first joined and one of my first matches would respond within minutes (so three stages done in about two days) I felt a bit overwhelmed. I know it couldn't have moved this pace without me also letting it though!

Maybe your match is (while trying to avoid the situation I just mentioned) dragging things out to not seem too eager, but either way the ball is in her court.
 
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