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I've been playing around with my personal settings a bit and have a question. Most of them make sense but I'm a little unsure of how the income question really works. If I indicate that it's important to me am I then only matched up with people in my exact income bracket? If I open it up to it being somewhat important am I then matched with people of any income level (as long as they match my other criteria) or is the pool just widened slightly.

I'm curious. I'm not picky about this so I'd hate to lose a lot of people based on this question. But at the same time, I'd prefer to date someone where there isn't a huge income disparity.
 
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My understanding is that its focus is on matches in the same bracket, and I suspect it's weighted away from lower brackets. I have income set to what my income is, and the slider set to "1-not important" because I'm only interested in a woman's personal virtues.

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I'm not picky about this so I'd hate to lose a lot of people based on this question. But at the same time...
So if your perfect-match-dream-guy was currently in another income bracket you'd be happy to pass him by? I guess when it comes to a man's wallet, size really does matter.
 
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Co6aka wrote :
So if your perfect-match-dream-guy was currently in another income bracket you'd be happy to pass him by? I guess when it comes to a man's wallet, size really does matter.
She didn't say that she wouldn't consider men in another income bracket (either lower or higher); she said she would prefer not to have a huge disparity in their incomes (whether her income is higher or his). That still leaves a lot of flexibility and she wants to make sure that her settings reflect that.
 
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I’m talking about more of a significant difference. For example, if someone were to say, make Ľ of what I do. I have no problem making more than someone I am dating, but I think if it were the extreme it could start to create issues. Hence, why I am asking because I wouldn’t want to rule out everyone who makes less than me.
 
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neardc wrote :
She didn't say that she wouldn't consider men in another income bracket (either lower or higher); she said she would prefer not to have a huge disparity in their incomes (whether her income is higher or his). That still leaves a lot of flexibility and she wants to make sure that her settings reflect that.
Yes exactly. That's why I wish it was a bit more clear on other sites (i.e. where you can set a range) or not offered up at all.
 
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neardc wrote :
She didn't say that she wouldn't consider men in another income bracket...
Then consider and evaluate them based only upon their personal virtues FIRST, without regard to their material virtues.

Too bad that dating sites don't provide men with sliders for selecting a preferred bust-size, etcetera, then women could be equally offended.

The long-term issue in a man's mind is this: "While I may be earning $1.7M today, what if I get wiped-out and only earn $18K, even just for a few years... WILL SHE DUMP ME???" (Probably!) So who wants a fair-weather lover/friend/remora-fish/whatever? You? (Probably not!)

A real man wants to be wanted/loved for who he is, not for what he has. (Otherwise he'd just hire a certain kind of woman.) Maybe someday women-in-general will figure that out... but I'm not holding my breath.

PS- Recall that Bill Gates was once a "worthless-luzer" in a low income bracket.
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