missmollyrose is offline missmollyrose Post #1  October 10,2010, 5:42pm
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you aren't interested, is it better to respond knowing it won't lead to anything, or simply not respond? I try to keep an open mind, but there are some people who have contacted me, and I could instantly tell from their profile we aren't at all compatible. I don't really want to answer their questions..

I know this sounds rude, but I just want to be honest.
 
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Are you referring to e-harmony mail or guided communication (the canned questions)

with the canned questions it is okay to just close the match, using the system close button..

in regards to email, you can send a quick note that you don't think your a good match and wish them luck in their search.. or just close them..

Just as long as you use the system as intended it's not rude. Rude is leaving the match wondering b/c you never responded or closed them out.
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Hi Missmollyrose,

Welcome to eHarmony Advice!

It’s not rude to not respond to your match, as long as you close the match to let them know that you’re not interested.

Keeping an open mind is really important here, because a lot of times you’d actually like someone in person that you wouldn’t have liked according to what you see on paper.

However, when you talk about incompatibilities, if you’re talking about absolute deal-breakers (like Must Haves and Can’t Stands), then it might be best to close the match and move on to more suitable candidates. There will be others who may be interested in those matches.

All the best,

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missmollyrose is offline missmollyrose Post #4  October 10,2010, 6:08pm
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Thanks for the advice. I thought I wasn't able to close a match that had sent me questions in the guided communication, because I didn't see the option in the "next steps" box, but now I see on the very bottom is a "close match" button.

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