How soon to close a match after a meeting?


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kikigirl123 is offline kikigirl123 Post #1  October 10,2010, 5:06pm
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Do you close matches with whom you've been on a date and for some reason, things did not work out? If yes, how soon?
Do you wait to be closed? Is there some kind of etiquette whereby the person that initiated communication should close?

It just feels awkward having them in the "communicating" tab, and knowing that any changes I make to my profile will appear in their "updates" tab.

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Good Question.

I hate that too... when you decide to part ways and immediately following they change their profile, adding something which you can't help thinking is in response to what I may have lacked in their opinion!!

I would think you could just close them anytime. Not like you will see them again... but I'm too nice sometimes and don't want to rock the boat, either.
 
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This is why I close prior to the first meeting, I usually do it after we begin to communicate outside of eharmony. I will let them know I am closing.

I don't believe there is some type of etiquette, I mean before the close reasons were removed, that's how some dates ended..
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kikigirl123 wrote :
Do you close matches with whom you've been on a date and for some reason, things did not work out? If yes, how soon?
Do you wait to be closed? Is there some kind of etiquette whereby the person that initiated communication should close?

It just feels awkward having them in the "communicating" tab, and knowing that any changes I make to my profile will appear in their "updates" tab.

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Treat the matter as you would in regular meetings. If you meet a guy off the street or where ever and the date thereafter does not vibe well, you simply break off communication (e.g. don't return phone calls, ignore texts, etc).

If you really want to be gentle, simply send an email indicating that you don't think there is chemistry, and you will close out the match. If you haven't exchanged any personal email or telephone numbers, just close the match and move on.

DON'T MAKE DATING ANY HARDER THAN REAL LIFE!
 
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