How many failed Must Haves/Can't Stands would you close a match for?


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Nick1985 is offline Nick1985 Post #1  October 8,2010, 12:39pm
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I got to the MH/CS stage with one match and she's sent hers through first. Two of her must haves are totally not me, and one of her can't stands is me. If I was a bit borderline in the first place about if she was right for me then I would probably normally close her, however (and this is going to sound pretty shallow) she's really really hot! So my question is is my fail point too low and should I carry on to the next stage, or should I just nip it in the bud now and save the hassle/heartache potentially further down the line? How many is your minimum fail criteria?
 
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Nick1985 wrote :
I got to the MH/CS stage with one match and she's sent hers through first. Two of her must haves are totally not me, and one of her can't stands is me. If I was a bit borderline in the first place about if she was right for me then I would probably normally close her, however (and this is going to sound pretty shallow) she's really really hot! So my question is is my fail point too low and should I carry on to the next stage, or should I just nip it in the bud now and save the hassle/heartache potentially further down the line? How many is your minimum fail criteria?
Being someone who isn't overflowing with great dating candidates I'd have taken the time to talk to them about their choices, and how much meaning they held for them.

Of course that's just me. If you've got girls coming out of your ears and you're trying to figure out ways to filter through them at step 3 since you just don't have the time to meet them all then go with whatever you want.
 
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No harm to qualify it later in the questions,depending on what they are .

What were they?

Sometimes they are silly , like "politically correct" other times they are deal breakers , like doing drugs .

Nick1985 wrote :

Two of her must haves are totally not me, and one of her can't stands is me.

she's really really hot!
 
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It depends on whether they're 'Must Haves' or 'Can't Stands'. Most of the Can't Stands are things that most people can't stand anyway so they're useless to even have as part of the eH process.

And depending on the Must Haves they selected, it could only take one for me to close her, but depending on what they are, it's usually best to continue communication and get some clarification later.
 
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Many of the MH/CS are subjective and in the past this board has proven that not everybody reads them the same way..
 
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TrekRyder10 wrote :
Many of the MH/CS are subjective and in the past this board has proven that not everybody reads them the same way..
Agreed, I don't pay much attention to them at all. I do my filtering after I meet them.
 
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tweet37 wrote :
It depends on whether they're 'Must Haves' or 'Can't Stands'. Most of the Can't Stands are things that most people can't stand anyway so they're useless to even have as part of the eH process.

And depending on the Must Haves they selected, it could only take one for me to close her, but depending on what they are, it's usually best to continue communication and get some clarification later.
Argh! Multi-quote isn't working right!

Anyway, this is true. Isn't Good Hygiene one of the Must Haves? I would assume most adults brush their teeth, so that one is kind of reaching. But some aren't a big deal and others are.

The problem is, you don't know just how much they mean this. I mean, if the match says he likes things neat (isn't that one?) does that mean "not disgusting" or are we talking "Sleeping With The Enemy" neat. You just never know, so I think most of the filtering comes during the first conversation and when you meet. Before then, it's just guessing.
 
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