During guided communication, does eH censor contact info?


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Dasil is offline Dasil Post #1  October 6,2010, 10:38pm
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With this free communication event that's going on, if I gave my match an email address that they could contact me at, would the address be censored in a way that the match would not get it.

I'm not a subscribing member, but I was contacted by a match during this free communication event, and we're into stage 3 of the guided communication. If I briefly explained this at the end of one of my answers and included an email address, would eH block the answer or at least remove the address from the message? Or would this work?

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It's against the TOS to exchange that kind of information before OC but I don't think eH would know you did it. If however your match reports you for doing it you could get your account suspended and I've seen in other threads where people have requested eH contact information so they could report things like this.
 
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lunabeach wrote :
Since you aren't a paid member anyway, you don't have anything to lose...
He may not loose money but he could loose his ability to continue using the site.
 
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ISearch4Love wrote :
He may not loose money but he could loose his ability to continue using the site.
And if he can't actually get contact info or a relationship by using the site then he (once again) has nothing to lose.

I have no idea what eH does, and frankly I don't care. It's a veritable ghost town on the net, and borderline impossible for anyone but the complete upper crust of either sex to get anything out of anyway.
 
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Yes, it's against the TOS, and you can be banned from EH for doing it.

Yes, it's possible to do it anyway.

Every time I've had a guy do it with me, I've closed him. I don't like that mentality. If you want to use a service, pay for it, don't steal it.
 
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I agree with Sassafras, I find cheating/lying/theoretically stealing to be a turn off, even if the the offence is a small one.

I have also seen a lot of profiles get removed from the system shortly after FCW events, I'm assuming due to exchanging contact information. Purely speculation on my part though.

What I would recommend doing in your case, is explaining to your match that you are only on for the free event, and that you will contact them next time eharmony offers free OC (I've heard rumors this might be around Thanksgiving).

Might they find somebody else between now and then? Yes. Might they completely lose interest? Yes. But that's the nature of the beast... you gotta pay to play. :-/
 
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I agree with Sassafras, I find cheating/lying/theoretically stealing to be a turn off, even if the the offence is a small one.

I have also seen a lot of profiles get removed from the system shortly after FCW events, I'm assuming due to exchanging contact information. Purely speculation on my part though.

What I would recommend doing in your case, is explaining to your match that you are only on for the free event, and that you will contact them next time eharmony offers free OC (I've heard rumors this might be around Thanksgiving).

Might they find somebody else between now and then? Yes. Might they completely lose interest? Yes. But that's the nature of the beast... you gotta pay to play. :-/
I completely agree with this!
 
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yeahitsme wrote :
I agree with Sassafras, I find cheating/lying/theoretically stealing to be a turn off, even if the the offence is a small one.

I have also seen a lot of profiles get removed from the system shortly after FCW events, I'm assuming due to exchanging contact information. Purely speculation on my part though.

What I would recommend doing in your case, is explaining to your match that you are only on for the free event, and that you will contact them next time eharmony offers free OC (I've heard rumors this might be around Thanksgiving).

Might they find somebody else between now and then? Yes. Might they completely lose interest? Yes. But that's the nature of the beast... you gotta pay to play. :-/
paying members don't seem to have any more success than non paying.
 
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I find this type of free communication weekend a major turnoff. I don't like being used as bait, I don't like being made to go through GC with no payoff at the end unless the other party ponies up. In a sense we are doing their marketing for them..where is our compensation? Open up OC for one day at the end if need be. Not every match works out, but who knows, the nonpayer may be encouraged enough to try the site full time.
 
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RebornInFire wrote :
II don't like being made to go through GC with no payoff at the end unless the other party ponies up. In a sense we are doing their marketing for them..where is our compensation? Open up OC for one day at the end if need be.
Agreed

On the last FCW I went through the GC and got to OC with a match and ended up talking with her on the phone. The match didn't work out but if we couldn't use OC at the end we'd have never been able to see if it would work out or not. Without the OC it would have been a waste of my time.
 
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