Shantak is offline Shantak Post #1  October 6,2010, 2:42pm
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And not sure if this is sad about me, or about eHarm in my area.

So just about to hit the 6 month mark, subscription ending and decided to do a little number crunching.

eHarm so far has delivered 1,283 matches. Now some days I might close 1-2 right off the bat, some days 5-6 (out of 9). So for argument sake lets say 40% of all matches delivered I closed out.

So that leaves 770 matches (can't really have .8 of a match). Out of that 770 I have went on a date with 19 girls (2.46%) of the matches I initiated communication with. If you go with all that eHarm delivered who were supposedly matching the 29 demintions of compatability that would be 1.48%)

Of that 19 girls, 1/2 were ones I really liked after our first date, all but 1 of those I liked poofed on me, she felt a "more friend vibe" but is willing to go out again.

Honestly I have felt more "friend vibe" with those I chatted with or dated than romantic connections as well.

By the odds, I would say eHarm is not the place to find someone that actually fits with me.
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it's not sad.

EH is not for everyone. i had a terrible choice of matches- overall, a little over a hundred in 4 months. about half were long distance or non-paying members. out of the other half, half of those were completely incompatible "flex matches"

so. it's not for everyone. i now know it's mostly a site for conservative, traditional people. i wish i had know that before paying the money, but whatever.

also, the one guy i actually met in RL from EH was an alcoholic.

try POF or OKC.
 
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If you think those numbers are bad..then I should go stick my head in the oven!
 
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TrekRyder10 wrote :
If you think those numbers are bad..then I should go stick my head in the oven!
You just need to up your dating age!!!!!
 
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I will be 40 in less than 5 months. This is so sad that I have resulted to EH and not one man has shown interest in me and they are all flex matches. I feel like I'm wasting yet another dollar on false results. I even had 4 pics posted and all of the so called matches viewed me. I started communication with 10 out of 15 of them. Still no responses. Starting to think, it must be a big woman thing.
 
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I guess if we look at how many people we meet in our day-to-day lives (dating-wise), and how many of those actually become dates or even short-lived relationships, eHa wouldn't look so bad.

Not that I don't think it has its share of issues. I'm a definite newbie and there are already things I'd like to change about how it works.

I joined eHa because I liked the idea of a detailed questionnaire and paid service to weed out those that aren't willing to invest the time so I'm surprised at the amount of dead profiles. However, with FCW and people not realizing they have to shut off matching when they go defunct, I can see how dead profiles are in mass amounts.

How many of you are on other dating sites? Do you prefer any in particular?
 
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scarlet13 wrote :
it's not sad.

EH is not for everyone. i had a terrible choice of matches- overall, a little over a hundred in 4 months. about half were long distance or non-paying members. out of the other half, half of those were completely incompatible "flex matches"

so. it's not for everyone. i now know it's mostly a site for conservative, traditional people. i wish i had know that before paying the money, but whatever.

also, the one guy i actually met in RL from EH was an alcoholic.

try POF or OKC.
Agree with this. Especially the suggestion to try OkCupid (OKC).

I had tons of "matches" from eHarmony... I don't think any of them were actually good matches for my personality/lifestyle/etc. I'm currently having the opposite experience on OKC (tons of good matches).

Hope you have better luck in the future!
 
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YellowUmbrella wrote :
How many of you are on other dating sites? Do you prefer any in particular?
A bunch of us have started to use OkCupid recently, and it's a big improvement over eHarmony, in my opinion. It's free--no cost to view pictures, no cost to send messages, etc.--and it's got a pretty big base of active users (3.5 million, I believe). Also, it has an amazing matching algorithm, based on the limitless multiple-choice questions that you can answer (or not, as you prefer) and rank in order of importance as it suits you. So the people you're "matched" with are actually good matches for you.

It's really easy to use, and it's fun, too. Even some people on here who don't use it for dating like to use it. Fun little quizzes you can take on it, etc.

I've been on it for 3 or 4 weeks, now, and so far, am extremely pleased with the results. No "you have to give it time" or anything like that (like people often say with eH).
 
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chimerical wrote :
Agree with this. Especially the suggestion to try OkCupid (OKC).

I had tons of "matches" from eHarmony... I don't think any of them were actually good matches for my personality/lifestyle/etc. I'm currently having the opposite experience on OKC (tons of good matches).

Hope you have better luck in the future!


I second (or third?) this suggestion again. And I say that even though at this time there are probably only 1 or 2 men over there close enough to where I live that I would even consider meeting - in my area, at least (and perhaps age-range?) there are a LOT of creeps. BUT you can hide them out of sight with the click of a button, and if everyone continues to spread the word, there will eventually be as decent a match pool there as we're likely to find online.

That said, I have given up the active search for now - especially online - and am focusing more on trying new things, going new places etc. in offline life.

I took my first swing dance lesson last night, zumba is next, I've attended a few meetup groups recently, and I'll try whatever else looks remotely fun and affordable that comes along. And I might not find a match that way, either, but that's okay - I'm having fun and meeting lots of fun new people.
 
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Well, I suppose that should make me feel a little better.

I've actually talked with people that said they were basically "let go" by EHarmony - saying that there just were no matches available for them. Now THAT is SAD!

I've been on for about 2 weeks, have received about 60 matches, have archived a little more than half and have not heard a peep from anyone. At least, I don't think I have.

From what I've been told, the orange, long oval to the right, on the Matches page, is what tells you if there is a message waiting. Otherwise, it gives you the option of reaching out, yourself. Is that correct?

My hopes weren't really all that high, to be honest....I almost think you might be more likely to meet someone who KNOWS someone that might be good for you.
 
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