seeksoulmate is offline seeksoulmate Post #1  October 6,2010, 2:18pm
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If you request a photo from a match, are you the only one who sees it or do all of their matches see it. Could this be one of the reasons why some matches don't respond to photo requests?
 
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Gracean is offline Gracean Post #2  October 6,2010, 2:22pm
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I'm sorry, if they don't want to post a photo I have to ask, "what are they hiding or who are they hiding from?" Are they really being honest? Are they married, engaged, or just plain not proud of the way they look?
 
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seeksoulmate wrote :
If you request a photo from a match, are you the only one who sees it or do all of their matches see it. Could this be one of the reasons why some matches don't respond to photo requests?
I believe everyone sees it..

With all the changes, I can't remember if the newer members have photo-sharing settings or not.

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I'm sorry, if they don't want to post a photo I have to ask, "what are they hiding or who are they hiding from?" Are they really being honest? Are they married, engaged, or just plain not proud of the way they look?
All of those are valid, but more than often it's a non-paying member from FCW or a inactive member who never turned-off matching
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TrekRyder10 wrote :
I believe everyone sees it..

With all the changes, I can't remember if the newer members have photo-sharing settings or not.
So, if they respond to the request, kind of makes we wonder why they didn't have a photo in the first place.
 
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seeksoulmate wrote :
So, if they respond to the request, kind of makes we wonder why they didn't have a photo in the first place.
Sometimes it takes awhile for a photo to be approved when just signing up.


I know I have taken it down a few times when i was burnt out, then a archived match became active and send a request.
 
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Hi Seeksoulmate,

It depends upon if your match still has the ability that TrekRyder10 mentioned. Some members who joined a while ago still do have the ability to share their photos with only certain matches.

When newer members post photos, all their matches see their photos. This is probably the case of most of your matches.

Each of your “photoless-at-first” matches will have unique reasons why they haven’t yet posted a photo, or why they are hiding their photos. In Customer Care, we often hear people say that they just don’t have photos of themselves, they’re not tech savvy, or they are mailing them to us (which takes time). It seems to me that while some people are private enough that they don’t wish to allow all their matches to see their photos, most people realize that eHarmony is secure.

The “Photo Nudge” never hurts and may help your matches realize how important posting photos are.

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Gracean wrote :
I'm sorry, if they don't want to post a photo I have to ask, "what are they hiding or who are they hiding from?" Are they really being honest? Are they married, engaged, or just plain not proud of the way they look?
Of course, there is another reason: a person may want to preserve a measure of privacy in seeking to meet someone, perhaps due to career concerns or perhaps because of living in a small town. While some folks are totally exhibitionistic about all sorts of aspects of their lives (such as those with twitter or facebook obsessions), others of us are not inclined to expose ourselves.
 
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Getting_There is offline Getting_There Post #8  October 21,2010, 11:23am
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Here's another reason someone may have their photos hidden:

Sometimes I hide my photos in EH when I've turned my matching off (I usually do this when I'm focusing on one match or I have a significant backlog of OC to work thru with multiple matches) so I lessen the likelihood of being contacted by someone who's already been matched with me in the past (but never communicated with me). I usually choose the setting which allows only matches who have exchanged first questions to see my photos so the current match I'm focusing on can still see my photos.
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I don't see the need for sarcasm, judgment or cynicism against those of us who choose not to post them.
I agree with that. Everyone has their own reasons for doing what they do. I've never seen the point in belittling others just because they don't share your opinion.
 
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ISearch4Love wrote :
I agree with that. Everyone has their own reasons for doing what they do. I've never seen the point in belittling others just because they don't share your opinion.

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Not only is there no point, but it is a violation of our Community Standards.

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If you don't agree with someone, that's fine. But it is not okay to try to belittle each other in order to do so. Also, should you receive such a response from a member, the only appropriate way to handle the situation is to ignore the post and report it.

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