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YellowUmbrella is offline YellowUmbrella Post #1  October 6,2010, 8:49am
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Since I'm serious about doing my best on eHarmony, I'd love your feedback on my profile. Be brutally honest.

The one thing I am most passionate about:
I'm passionate about life-long learning and trying new things. I really believe life is a journey and it is important for me to keep learning and trying things I haven't tried before to stay young-at-heart.

The most important thing I am looking for in a person is:
I think positivity is very important to me. I really enjoy someone who chooses to take a "glass is half full" approach!

Basic Information
Occupation:
Marketing Coordinator/Designer
Age
30
Height
5' 7"
- OR -
170 cm.
Wants Kids:
Maybe
Kids at Home:
No
Ethnicity
Other
Religion:
Christian
Drinks:
About once a week
Smokes:
Never

The most influential person in my life has been:
My mom has been the most influential person in my life since she is the most resilient person I know. We moved a lot when I was young and became very close-knit as a family. She always had a positive way of seeing things and helped me handle losing friends, and having to start over new. Even now she's my role model for how to roll with life's punches and to keep a smile on my face. We're more like sisters than mother and daughter.

The three things which I am most thankful for:
• My family.
• Living in a country with freedom and opportunity.
• My friends.

Three of my best life-skills are:
• Using humour to make friends laugh
• Achieving personal goals
• Maintaining a network of close friends

The one thing I wish MORE people would notice about me:
Since I tend to be a bit of a jokester and laugh a lot, I can give the impression that I don't have an interest in deeper things, but I really do. I use humor to stay positive and I make light of many things, but I also really enjoy things like philosophical conversations. Spirituality is also an interest of mine and I'm currently listening to a great series of podcasts on the major world religions. I like being exposed to new views and ideas and think it is important to keep challenging myself.

The things I can't live without are:
• Friends
• Humor
• Goals in life
• Health/Activity
• A great tea selection

The first thing people notice about me:
I smile a lot and I have a rather random sense of humor. I also seem to really love corny jokes. I'm not sure if it is so much the joke as the expressions on people's faces when I tell them!

Some additional information I want you to know:
Since I like to be honest and up-front, I'd like to clarify my "maybe" on the kids topic. I'm really loving life as it is now, and have so many things I've yet to try, so I wonder about the time/money/responsibility of kids. I know if I were to be a mom I'd be a dedicated one and parenthood is not a decision I take lightly at all. I also realize that who I end up spending my life with plays a big role in this decision and with the right person, kids could be possible. This is probably not a sure enough answer for those of you that do want kids though. So I wanted to lay all the cards on the table.

I typically spend my leisure time:
I enjoy getting out and being active (really enjoying recreation level sports right now: dodgeball, badminton, floor hockey), spending time with friends, and drinking masses of tea.

The last book I read and enjoyed:
I actually read two books in tandem that are very different from each other! "The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy" by Douglas Adams, and "Who Needs God" by Harold Kushner. Hitchhiker's is just plain hilarious, random and a great read, and "Who Needs God" is an insightful look at humanity, religion, spirituality and why we benefit from reaching beyond ourselves to something higher. I think my next book will be "Life of Pi" by Yann Martel...or maybe something with aliens.

My friends describe me as:
• Creative
• Genuine
• Loyal
• Intelligent
 
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lunabeach is offline lunabeach Post #2  October 6,2010, 9:01am
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I'm not your target audience, but it's a very personable profile - I feel like a get a sense of who you are and what's important to you. While it might not have wide appeal, that could be in your favor - you're not looking to appease everyone, you're looking for people who will be drawn to you as you are.

That said "the MORE" answer isn't great - it starts with a cliche (I may seem, but I'm not) and meanders a bit. I would try to narrow your focus. You mention humor in other areas, so I would nix that. My answer is something friends know and like about me, and I preface it by saying that it's just something not everyone knows
 
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I think it's a good profile.
It gives me a sense of who you are, although the passion thing is a little vague. I'm not a big fan of the term "positivity"...except when I hear it used in an electrical engineering environment...
I think it would be better, in your example, to say "optimism", but that's just a pet peeve of mine.

Otherwise, it looks pretty good, and I especially like the way you explained the children preference, as that's a thing that EH needs to clean up a bit and maybe, add some clearer definitions.
 
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Thanks, I've tweaked my profile file a bit. I haven't actually updated it yet but I'll see what other feedback I get.

lunabeach: good call on the references to humor. Probably a bit too many.

TheThinker: I was really on the fence about putting the kid details in the profile but hopefully people will appreciate me being completely open.
 
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Hands down- the worst profile I've ever read!!!

whatcha doin Saturday night?


Nice job-it's really good..
 
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YellowUmbrella is offline YellowUmbrella Post #6  October 6,2010, 9:56am
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Haha, Trek you're hilarious

Thanks again, everyone. I really appreciate your help!
 
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MagicalTrev is offline MagicalTrev Post #7  October 6,2010, 12:14pm
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I think it's a solid profile, no red flags, but also no super attention grabbers.

That's fine, and probably beneficial since it's not likely to scare anyone off, as long as your photos can grab the admittedly single-minded male attention...

We're so easy.
 
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MagicalTrev: Now you have me curious: what kind of things would you say are attention grabbers? Have you seen anything on profiles you've been matched with that really stood out to you?

I guess everyone has a different concept of what is interesting. A lot of guys I've been matched with have talked about cliff-diving, hang-gliding, jumping out of airplanes. Okay, I admit I'm pretty darn tame next to these people!
 
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When I say attention grabber, I mean something that will be almost universally commented on without being a red flag.

I haven't yet seen a single detail on a woman's profile that snagged my attention, so my best personal example comes from my own profile. I said, "I like my women the way I like my instant oatmeal: easy to work with, satisfying, and covered in facts about dinosaurs." Almost every woman that I've had contact with mentioned that line somehow, so it's a good attention grabber because it stands out.

Things like cliff diving, hang gliding, and parachuting might not be because some people will just dismiss the profile out of hand, thinking the other person is bragging or possible just too high speed for them.

That being said, I have to refer back to my original post. Your written profile is quite good and really unlikely to scare anyone away. And men, being us, will have our attention grabbed by the photos anyway.

Edit: When I said a single detail above, I don't mean that every profile I've ever read has been boring, I just mean no one thing stood out on the best profiles I've read...
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MagicalTrev wrote :
I said, "I like my women the way I like my instant oatmeal: easy to work with, satisfying, and covered in facts about dinosaurs."
Ready to go in only 1.5 minutes, and leave you sleepy afterward.

And admit it, if a woman was covered in facts about dinosaurs you'd think her a little weird.
 
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