Closed matches: Do they know they are closed?


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YellowUmbrella is offline YellowUmbrella Post #1  October 5,2010, 8:21pm
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Again, I hope I'm not asking something that is easily answered in an FAQ. I use the eHa in Canada and there may be some differences. I know there are a few things people have described about archiving and closing matches that does not seem to match what I see on my eHa interface.

Anyway, on with the question: When I close a match (and I choose "close match" not archive), do they know? The last thing I want is to leave a match in limbo. I'd like him to know I've closed him so he can move on. I think it is far better to close than to just leave a profile hanging.

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I don't believe there would be a difference with this part.

Yes your match will know that you closed them..
 
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Thanks Trek!

Now if only matches would close me instead of viewing my profile over and over and not doing anything, haha!
 
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Make sure your profile doesn't sound too intimidating, or sound like you have unreasonable or very high expectations in a match. Could be they find you very attractive, but something about your profile convinces them you are not right for them. Too many women brag about their accomplishments and travels in my experience and do it in such a way that is very off-putting. Basically in a nutshell, they sound super high maintenance they would never be happy with a night in. Sound interesting, yet approachable.
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One more thing...closed matches won't show up in your "who viewed me" anymore.
 
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A closed match would no longer show in my list of matches though right? So I'd know they closed me.

My profile is pretty light-hearted so I don't think "hard to please" would be an issue. Of course there are things on it that might not line up with what everyone thinks but that's probably a good thing so they can see if I'm a match or not.

I've actually been debating putting some more information on my profile clarifying my "maybe" on kids, but at this point have left it off (and am planning to wait till OC to discuss) due to wanting to keep my profile light and not dip into anything too serious too early. Still debating on this point.
 
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YellowUmbrella wrote :
Thanks Trek!

Now if only matches would close me instead of viewing my profile over and over and not doing anything, haha!
How about initiating contact and seeing what happens? It might nudge them into action, and at worst you can close them if you see them viewing your profile repeatedly without responding knowing full well that there's no reason to keep them open.

Edit: PS. How I Met Your Mother is legen... wait for it... dary.
 
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Yeah MagicalTrev! You understand the umbrella. Nice.

I actually did just what you said earlier tonight and initiated contact with... let me see.. 5. I figure even if the action this spurs them to is closing me, I'm better off. I have no qualms about taking the initiative and hopefully my matches won't either.
 
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YellowUmbrella wrote :
Yeah MagicalTrev! You understand the umbrella. Nice.

I actually did just what you said earlier tonight and initiated contact with... let me see.. 5. I figure even if the action this spurs them to is closing me, I'm better off. I have no qualms about taking the initiative and hopefully my matches won't either.
Good for you. I'm glad to see someone that actually takes the advise they get on these boards instead of just arguing with what everyone says.
 
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Okay one more question: When I get closed, will that profile go to "closed matches" or "archived matches"? I noticed after clarifying the kid thing on my profile, a few matches shot into the archive box. I admit I don't really understand the difference between archived and closed. Do they want to not close me out, but just have other matches they feel are better and so are moving me out of their main match area? Or did they actually close me and closes just appear archived? I'll search the official help topics too and see if I can figure this out.
 
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