How Many People Use the Nuge Option?


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SoilderLover is offline SoilderLover Post #1  October 5,2010, 6:03pm
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How many people use the nuge option and has it worked for you or did they still not answer your questions or later decided to close you out?

I am still new to the site and I saw that after 7 days have passed you can give them a nuge. So I am wondering if this is something that others do as well.

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Most people seem to prefer using it prior to one of eHarmony's free communication weekends. The reason for this is because a lot of people you get match with may be non paying members and can't communicate with you on a regular basis. During free communication weekends they can so by nudging them just prior to these you can often get people to communicate with you that might not otherwise be able to.
 
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ISearch4Love wrote :
Most people seem to prefer using it prior to one of eHarmony's free communication weekends. The reason for this is because a lot of people you get match with may be non paying members and can't communicate with you on a regular basis. During free communication weekends they can so by nudging them just prior to these you can often get people to communicate with you that might not otherwise be able to.
IS4L is right.

Time it right, and you can use the Nudge before one free communication weekend, and a photo nudge or icebreaker before another. If you get through two free communication weekends and they still haven't responded you should have no qualms about closing out the match -- its a near-100% sure thing that they abandoned the profile months or years ago and it is still circulating because they didn't ask eH to close it or even just turn off matching.
 
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I posted this in another thread but I'll post it here again.

If you already used the nudge prior to the FCW and want to use it again here's something you can try.

I can't guarantee this will work every time but it did work for me. Close the match then re-open it. When I did this it gave me the option to send the nudge again.

The only draw back to doing this would be that it might move you from their new or communicating tab to their archive tab. This may or may not be an issue, depending on how they perceive you ending up in their archive tab. Worth a try at least if you really want to be able to nudge someone right before the FCW.
 
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Thanks I sent them this weekend one closed me out the other hasn't responded. I will keep in mind to use it during free communication weekends.
 
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SoilderLover wrote :
How many people use the nuge option and has it worked for you or did they still not answer your questions or later decided to close you out?

I am still new to the site and I saw that after 7 days have passed you can give them a nuge. So I am wondering if this is something that others do as well.

Thanks.
Since many ppl don't bother revisiting the eHarmony, the Nudge feature is a wasted feature on the site. A person receives a notification that he/she has been matched, and will also receive notification of communications. If there is no response to either within 48 hours, close the match. To me, sending a Nudge is tantamount to a desperate plea made to someone who doesn't care.

I wish eHarmony had a feature that automatically stopped matching people who don't respond to matches or visit the site after a period of time.
 
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NYCguy wrote :
Since many ppl don't bother revisiting the eHarmony, the Nudge feature is a wasted feature on the site. A person receives a notification that he/she has been matched, and will also receive notification of communications. If there is no response to either within 48 hours, close the match. To me, sending a Nudge is tantamount to a desperate plea made to someone who doesn't care.

I wish eHarmony had a feature that automatically stopped matching people who don't respond to matches or visit the site after a period of time.
Thanks NYCGuy,

I agree I wished that they would close out the matches that don't respond so that I would have to waste my time.

But what I have heard from the ehamony advice team that there might be reasons why they don't respond. It would be nice that some of the people who I know have looked at my profile a few times or at least once that I send GC with that they would answer or close me out instead of wasting my time.

Those I know aren't dead profiles but I suppose they might not be paying members.
 
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Oh, this is looking to be desperate. If someone doesn't respond I would move on, not look at it like a flaw in the site. Just subscribed today, mayebe bad decision.
 
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SoilderLover wrote :
Thanks NYCGuy,

I agree I wished that they would close out the matches that don't respond so that I would have to waste my time.

But what I have heard from the ehamony advice team that there might be reasons why they don't respond. It would be nice that some of the people who I know have looked at my profile a few times or at least once that I send GC with that they would answer or close me out instead of wasting my time.

Those I know aren't dead profiles but I suppose they might not be paying members.
The ones that repeatedly look at your profile, but don't respond to Guided Communication may not want to make a decision without seeing a pic, and unpaid members cannot view pics. If we could, that would GREATLY reduce the number of paid memberships the same way other dating sites have trouble with repeat memberships.

After awhile, just let the membership expire, wait 2 - 3 months, and try again. In the meantime, go back to the normal means of seeking someone (e.g. volunteer, social gatherings with friends who have friends, professional or sport clubs, etc). In my opinion, eHarmony is becoming obsolete. Time to be back to the future with regard to dating.
 
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ISearch4Love wrote :
I posted this in another thread but I'll post it here again.

If you already used the nudge prior to the FCW and want to use it again here's something you can try.

I can't guarantee this will work every time but it did work for me. Close the match then re-open it. When I did this it gave me the option to send the nudge again.

The only draw back to doing this would be that it might move you from their new or communicating tab to their archive tab. This may or may not be an issue, depending on how they perceive you ending up in their archive tab. Worth a try at least if you really want to be able to nudge someone right before the FCW.
This is a novel way of trying one last time to get someone to respond. Since what I do already takes us through three FCWs (which would span about 6 months), I would only do this as a last-ditch attempt on a super sounding match. Nothing to lose at that point!
 
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