Are there really more women than men on EH?


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corvalueokie is offline corvalueokie Post #1  January 8,2008, 7:05pm
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I paid for a year on EH and I'm wondering if I should have spent my money on something else. Many people have stated that there are more women than men on here. I've read women have had 100, 200 and even 400 matches. At this rate I would have to be a member longer than a year to have 400 matches. I'm an attractive successful man and I think I would be a good match, but so far all this has done is test my self confidence. It seems like most of my matches are not paying members. I think I'm going to get a membership at the local fitness center. If nothing else, I'll get in better shape.
 
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How long have you been a member? If it is a short time, < 3 mos., you need to give it some time. There are a great many nonresponders out there. I have been pleased after two years (although still single). I have had plenty of matches, most of the ones I met were fine people. I really takes it a while to get up and running.
 
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My advice is go ahead & get your gym membership- working out is a proven confidence builder- but also keep using your membership. Because 400 matches or 50, it only takes 1 great match.
 
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Well I agree with corvalueokie, BUT, I am female and have the same problem. I'm not getting anyone too respond. The one that did respond went as far as open discussion and dropped off the end of the keyboard. What gives? I don't think they should match non subscribers. It certainly tears down your self confidence.
 
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Leao, I'd like to suggest (as a complete stranger whose advice you don't have to take at all) that you make a decision not to let your self confidence be bruised if someone stops communicating with you while you're using this site. If someone decides to stop communicating with you and you haven't even MET, it's not rejection in the strongly true sense of the word- they don't even know you (so how can they really be rejecting you)! Now, if you'd gone on 6 or more dates and the person disappeared that would be different. Plus you don't even know why they stopped communicating. It might not even have anything to do with you (maybe they let their membership go), and if it does it could be as miniscule as something you said, or it could be they think you're too good for them (that kills plenty of relationships before or after they start), or maybe they're really anal or critical, etc. and did you a big favor by dropping off the end of the keyboard. Try to relax and just enjoy your experience until you finally find what you're looking for.
 
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No. All online dating sites suffer from the same problems: They have a lot more men than women. Which BTW, happens to be the exact opposite of the real world.

One reason I heard is that men prefer the online dating system because they can get high numbers (theoretically). Women don't like it because it isn't personal. Many women don't trust a computer to figure out what their "inner voice" can figure out.
 
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winforyou is offline winforyou Post #7  January 16,2008, 9:56pm
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1 million member free sign up.
perhaps 100,000 paying member.
shrink the numbers to match you and your area...
small number of matches...
Just a thought...
I just signed up and I already have some regrets...
EH better live up to its self-claimed fame...
 
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I am investigating the various options available for dating. What I do not understand is why individuals do not fill in profiles. Does one feel it is too vulnerable to make this available or is the belief that one should pay the fee first to know basic information?
 
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Leao is offline Leao Post #9  January 17,2008, 6:08pm
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Thank you NICEANDNOSEY, I appreciate what you said. I am one that naturally wears my heart on my sleeve and I realize I'm going to have to get tougher. I have always been told that I am too tenderhearted. Well, I guess I'm just going to have to work on changing that temperament here on the computer! Thanks for the help.
 
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I am initiating communication with about 40% of my matches. If they look or sound interesting at all, I initiate communication. I would say that 85% of those never respond. Some of the matches they send even state on the persons profile that they are not members of eHarmony. So I suspect that there is a high percentage of people out there that are not even active, but EH is matching them, and sending their profiles out.
 
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