Special-K is offline Special-K Post #1  October 2,2010, 2:39pm
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NM: Wish I could just delete the question, as I decided to ask him directly.

Thanks, jayjay!
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jayjay is offline jayjay Post #2  October 2,2010, 2:44pm
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...things seem to have gotten quiet around here.

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Hard to know. He may have simply had a bad experience in the past with someone(s) who wasn't at all interested in sex and he doesn't want to go there again. Or, he could be a pervert.
 
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I guess the OP was answered
 
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Ok we're dying to know now, LOL.. Let me guess nearly every MH / CS had to do with ..I need someone who....
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NM: Wish I could just delete the question, as I decided to ask him directly.

Thanks, jayjay!
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Hard to know. He may have simply had a bad experience in the past with someone(s) who wasn't at all interested in sex and he doesn't want to go there again. Or, he could be a pervert.
 
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Special-K is offline Special-K Post #5  October 3,2010, 3:05pm
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Ok we're dying to know now, LOL.. Let me guess nearly every MH / CS had to do with ..I need someone who....
You are indeed a wise man! So in your wise opinion, why would someone be so blunt and upfront about that so early on... can't imagine what the first phone call would be like...
 
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You are indeed a wise man! So in your wise opinion, why would someone be so blunt and upfront about that so early on... can't imagine what the first phone call would be like...

I've had these MH/CS with several guys, when we got to OC I asked about it. They all were in marriages where the woman either cheated or had a very low sex drive. I've read on here where a lot of gals close over this but I feel it's better to ask. None of them were players as is thought by so many who close over these.
 
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I use all of the sexually related MH/CS's. I have been called some not-very-nice names on here because of that, but here's the thing: sexual intimacy is of paramount importance to me. Isn't it better for someone to close my profile, or ask me about it, if we are obviously not going to be a good match in the bedroom? That's what the system is for. It doesn't mean I am a player, or married, or just looking for a hookup, and only one time has someone had an issue with my choices.
 
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I have chosen a few of those in my MH/CS as well...because I agree with Dropdead...it's very important to me in my marriage to be sexually compatible..which means that they value intimacy as it is a crucial part of a relationship...Just as important as having emotional intimacy, communication, humor, etc.

In my profile, I talk about being a Christian as well so I haven't had anyone misunderstand my intent when I talk about those issues...

I am an extremely affectionate person, so I let my matches know this early on because I would not get along with someone who is not a big hand holder, kisser, or snuggler as well

So it doesn't have to mean some deviant behavior is behind those requests that a man has..now..there are certain profiles that you can tell right away what they are looking for...LOL...so those go bye-bye..
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Hi Special,
I think jayjay is spot on here. Now the question is: why?
1)Did he happen to be with non-responsive / cold women?

2)Is his appetite way over the top? (sex addiction, etc.)

3)Is he that bad / selfish in this area that he gets rejected a lot? ( all talk, no action)

4)He believes that blurting this theme out front makes him a "desirable" lover? ( I'm too sexy).. LOL

Are you going to call him? Call anonymously, if there is any weirdness, hang up... then as jayjay stated he's just a pervert.

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Hard to know. He may have simply had a bad experience in the past with someone(s) who wasn't at all interested in sex and he doesn't want to go there again. Or, he could be a pervert.
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You are indeed a wise man! So in your wise opinion, why would someone be so blunt and upfront about that so early on... can't imagine what the first phone call would be like...
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Dropdeadredtx wrote :
I use all of the sexually related MH/CS's. I have been called some not-very-nice names on here because of that, but here's the thing: sexual intimacy is of paramount importance to me. Isn't it better for someone to close my profile, or ask me about it, if we are obviously not going to be a good match in the bedroom? That's what the system is for. It doesn't mean I am a player, or married, or just looking for a hookup, and only one time has someone had an issue with my choices.
I agree with DropDead here. I have sexual points in my MH/CS, such as CS ‘disinterested.’ It is a filtering process. However, I’m surprised how eager women my age are about this, something happens when they turn 40. I’m finding a LOT of my matches having these same sexual points in their MH/CS and I also notice how rare pornography is for a CS. By the way, a third of the pornography market is CONSUMED by women in the US.

I had a match just last week, that asked in the short answer question, do I do sex on the first date. Not to be a prude here, nor do I judge anyone who does, but I personally don’t. I feel that it cheapens the relationship. She promptly closed me the next day.
 
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