bestintentions is offline bestintentions Post #1  October 2,2010, 1:41pm
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Is the name of the game to gain a girl's facebook/phone number and then never speak to them again? I had this happen to me with two different guys in a very short period of time. We communicate great on eharmony, they ask to take it to Facebook or phone and then...NOTHING. What the heck? Has this happened to anyone else?
 
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I've had two ladies do the same thing to me. No idea why someone would act that way. I thought we were all adults here but a lot of people don't act like they are.
 
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I think there's something about anonymity that makes people feel they can behave badly.

I was matched with a guy who seemed terrific and compatible with me in all sorts of ways. He said he was very enthusiastic about meeting, but left it to me to suggest a time & place -- which I did -- then he poofed! Never another word from him and a week later he closed the match!

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I had a person on E-harmony that I went to open comm and had only one vague picture on her profile. When I asked her why she does not have any more better pictures on her profile she said she has no better pictures to post but said she had better ones on her facebook and I could friend her and see them. Well did that and saw she was physically unattractive to me. I unfriended her and closed her on Eharmony with a note saying there was no physical chemistry. I think what happend to bestintentions and Isearch4love is they were communicating with a new matches they were more interested in and did not bother to send you any notes.
 
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Tank wrote :
I think what happend to bestintentions and Isearch4love is they were communicating with a new matches they were more interested in and did not bother to send you any notes.
That's probably what happened.
 
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Never friend them on Facebook.
1) It will destroy your privacy, huge chance for misinterpretation.
2)You are not trying to be "friended", you want a date.
3)Yes, some people are "collectors", for any number of reasons.
4) Ask them first for thier email, phone, offer your email, and if comfortable, phone.
One guy used to put all sorts of women he never met on his Facebook, just to get back at his ex and appear popular with women. Believe or not, there are motives that are that stupid
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Is the name of the game to gain a girl's facebook/phone number and then never speak to them again? I had this happen to me with two different guys in a very short period of time. We communicate great on eharmony, they ask to take it to Facebook or phone and then...NOTHING. What the heck? Has this happened to anyone else?
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yeahitsme is offline yeahitsme Post #7  October 3,2010, 12:28pm
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If you get sent several matches every day, and communicate with most, you are bound to find yourself at one point or another in open communication with several people. Perhaps these matches liked you and had every intention of getting together, but then somebody else came along that they were more interested in.

Also, some people have no intention of ever meeting anybody in real life, or they just enjoy the "chase".

They got in a tragic accident and are unable to contact you.

Lost your number.

Spontaneous combustion.

Anyway, it really doesn't matter WHY, just that it DID hapen. Sorry to hear that you had a bad experience. These things seem to come in waves. Next thing you know, you'll be the one with too many numbers to call! :-)
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