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WhiteCrane is offline WhiteCrane Post #1  October 2,2010, 1:35pm
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Well!

Another interesting eHarmony adventure for me. I'd like to know if anyone else out there has gone down this path!

I've seen plenty of posts about the Who's Viewed Me feature, expressing frustration about people who come back and look repeatedly but never make contact.

And I've had one of those myself for the past couple of months!

The common assumption seems to be that these are non-paying users who can't do much on the eH website, and who are reluctant to pay to join.

So... I decided to put my visitor to the test, request open communication and ASK HIM what's up. Since there's a free communication promotion running, this seemed to be the moment. Tried to keep the e-mail light, and on the nothing-ventured-nothing-gained theme.

And... he's e-mailed right back and asked to get together tomorrow. I'm going to go for it -- why not.

Has anyone else done this? I'd be curious to know, and interested to hear other people's tales!!
 
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jgy60a is offline jgy60a Post #2  October 2,2010, 2:04pm
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Good going. Somebody's gotta be the leader!
 
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ISearch4Love is offline ISearch4Love Post #3  October 2,2010, 2:07pm
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You gotta keep us updated on this one!
 
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lunabeach is offline lunabeach Post #4  October 2,2010, 2:10pm
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Definitely keep us updated - I did it a few times at the beginning and either got closed or received very passive replies. I haven't bothered since b/c it never paid off, but I may reconsider that position
 
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Co6aka is offline Co6aka Post #5  October 2,2010, 2:20pm
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WhiteCrane wrote :
I'd like to know if anyone else out there has gone down this path!
Several times; I've always been promptly closed. After being viewed every day, or every other day for a week or so, I initiated out of curiosity. These were all matches I'd archived since I didn't see any/much potential. Now I just close them. (Tire-kickers!)
 
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NYCguy is offline NYCguy Post #6  October 10,2010, 9:12pm
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WhiteCrane wrote :
Well!

Another interesting eHarmony adventure for me. I'd like to know if anyone else out there has gone down this path!

I've seen plenty of posts about the Who's Viewed Me feature, expressing frustration about people who come back and look repeatedly but never make contact.

And I've had one of those myself for the past couple of months!

The common assumption seems to be that these are non-paying users who can't do much on the eH website, and who are reluctant to pay to join.

So... I decided to put my visitor to the test, request open communication and ASK HIM what's up. Since there's a free communication promotion running, this seemed to be the moment. Tried to keep the e-mail light, and on the nothing-ventured-nothing-gained theme.

And... he's e-mailed right back and asked to get together tomorrow. I'm going to go for it -- why not.

Has anyone else done this? I'd be curious to know, and interested to hear other people's tales!!
Hilarious! You initiated contact with someone who: (1) is too cheap to pay for the membership; and (2) has no idea what you look like since non-paying members cannot see a pic.

Not me. I didn't pay a membership fee to do a blind date. Quite frankly, why be bothered with someone too cheap to risk a few dollars to pay for the membership rather than lurk behind the internet and repeatedly view profiles.
 
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ScottK is offline ScottK Post #7  October 10,2010, 9:26pm
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NYCguy wrote :
Hilarious! You initiated contact with someone who: (1) is too cheap to pay for the membership; and (2) has no idea what you look like since non-paying members cannot see a pic.

Not me. I didn't pay a membership fee to do a blind date. Quite frankly, why be bothered with someone too cheap to risk a few dollars to pay for the membership rather than lurk behind the internet and repeatedly view profiles.
This is not true.
He *IS* a paying member!

Since this is a Free GUIDED Communication Weekend, he would have not been able to respond to her "Skip to Email" request.

(And even in the case where it was a regular FCW, he still would not have been able to skip to email)

Thus he absolutely is a paying member, or at the very worst, turned into a paying member because of her request.

Thus, her Match *can* see her Photos, and DOES know what she looks like.

Congrats WhiteCrane, I hope the meet up goes well!
 
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