Mr_Sinatra is offline Mr_Sinatra Post #1  October 2,2010, 1:31am
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I was matched with a girl that I know from work. I have always found her attractive and nice to be around. How do I proceed in this situation since i already know her?
 
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Wiseman2 is offline Wiseman2 Post #2  October 2,2010, 3:17am
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I was matched with a girl that I know from work. I have always found her attractive and nice to be around. How do I proceed in this situation since i already know her?
 
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annother is offline annother Post #3  October 2,2010, 3:32am
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Being matched with someone from your workplace indicates that you have more than the usual amount of things in common, and is thus a good thing.

There are those who say you shouldn't date people you work with, but if the workplace is big enough and your positions within it are more-or-less unrelated, I don't see a problem with it.

If she is uncomfortable with the idea of dating you, she'll let you know. Otherwise, don't hesitate. Don't behave differently from any other date except to acknowledge that you have previously been interested in her. That will be a plus!
 
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I was matched with a girl that I know from work. I have always found her attractive and nice to be around. How do I proceed in this situation since i already know her?
Never date someone you work with!!!

So the way to proceed with this match is to close her now.
 
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Just FYI..you may want to delete the 3 other identical posts on the other boards you have with this question as to not confuse everyone..

As far as your question goes..

What are the rules at your workplace about dating co-workers?

Have you communicated with her yet and asked how she feels about this?

If both are a positive answer..then go out and have fun!
 
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There are those who say you shouldn't date people you work with, but if the workplace is big enough and your positions within it are more-or-less unrelated, I don't see a problem with it.
If you already know someone through work then it obviously is not big enough and your (their) positions are not enough unrelated.

Dating someone that you work with is going to create a problem. If it does not work out, in the very best situation you are going to see the person on some sort of regular basis even if it is only passing in the hall. If the break up was messy there may be management intervention. If it does work out, many companies have rules prohibiting couples from working at the same company, etc. Just way better to not even begin down the road of dating someone that you work with.
 
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Never date someone you work with!!!

So the way to proceed with this match is to close her now.
Not necessarily. If she thought it'd be a great idea, the OP would've lost out by closing her.
 
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I'd proceed online just the same as I would if I didn't know her.
 
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Gr8Guyn2008 wrote :
Dating someone that you work with is going to create a problem.
Spoken with such certainty! I've known a few couples who've met at their places of employment, dated, and later married. Perhaps their marriage was the problem it created? Hmm... Anyway, how are you able to be so certain about future events? (I could use a little help with tonight's Lotto numbers.)
 
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Mr_Sinatra wrote :
I was matched with a girl that I know from work. I have always found her attractive and nice to be around. How do I proceed in this situation since i already know her?
I wouldn't date someone at work if either supervises the other.

But if that's not an issue, perhaps talk to her IRL (in private - don't do this in front of co-workers), bring up the EH match, and take it from there. See if you both want to pursue anything. Perhaps ask her out to lunch on a workday?

Or, you could send her 1st-questions and see what she does with that. Or, you could send her a request to go straight to EH mail and see what she does.

I like the IRL option best, myself. Good luck with it!
 
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