BabyYoda is offline BabyYoda Post #1  October 1,2010, 10:36am
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Do you think that eH's 29 dimensions of compatibility is accurate? Essentially, do you think that eH has done a good job matching you up with people who you are most likely to click with?

My answer is no.

Why?

Because..

It seems to me that the vast majority of "active" matches do not find my profile to be appealing(for whatever reason). I am not saying "all", but I am saying the vast majority.

I wish there was a better formula for eH to match us up with people who are truely "highly compatible" as their emails suggests when sending you a specific match. I just don't think it is really possible or maybe people simply lie when taking that personality test.

What is your take on this topic?

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Patterson is offline Patterson Post #2  October 1,2010, 11:05am
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I don't even take it into consideration.

There is no such thing as a better formula for sending truely higher compatiable matches, bottom line no algorithym accounts for what people find physical attractive.

Even if a system existed, ones profile could be littered with dealbreakers.

What might work is: if eH showed the text results..similar to what another site does. I find sometimes find someone more interesting when I see their answer differs from mine.
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Do you think that eH's 29 dimensions of compatibility is accurate? Essentially, do you think that eH has done a good job matching you up with people who you are most likely to click with?
I have no idea...I really don't.

I know I get a ton of nurses...and have no clue as to why.(although I'm not complaining, either.)
The thing is, how are you deciding that they don't find your profile appealing? Are you basing that on whats written in it? or strictly lack of contact?
I mean, we're visual animals, both sexes...so it could be strictly based on photos..also.
Not everyone finds everyone else visually appealing.

I think that's the toughest part to realize, that in spite of the 29 dimensions people still have to be able to give each other a chance, and not all of them will...for whatever reason. Everyone has preferences...
The "29 dimensions" is just the letter carrier bringing it into your mailbox...if you don't open the mail, so much for the 29 dimensions...
 
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The thing is, how are you deciding that they don't find your profile appealing?
One way is closing me out. Another way is by lack of contact.

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Are you basing that on whats written in it? or strictly lack of contact?
What is written, lack of contact, being closed out. I am only focusing on those who are active, not those who aren't.

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I mean, we're visual animals, both sexes...so it could be strictly based on photos..also.
I agree. This is is yet another reason for my sentiments/feelings.

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Not everyone finds everyone else visually appealing.
I understand, but at the same token, the purpose of being on this site is to be matched with someone who is more likely to be compatible. Can't base compatibility solely on looks although I don't deny it's importance.

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I think that's the toughest part to realize, that in spite of the 29 dimensions people still have to be able to give each other a chance, and not all of them will...for whatever reason. Everyone has preferences...
This goes without saying, but I am curious in knowing if there is a better way to be matched up with people who will find my profile to be appealing and my pictures to be physically appealing.

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The "29 dimensions" is just the letter carrier bringing it into your mailbox...if you don't open the mail, so much for the 29 dimensions...
LOL. Duly noted.

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Patterson wrote :
I don't even take it into consideration.

There is no such thing as a better formula for sending truely higher compatiable matches, bottom line no algorithym accounts for what people find physical attractive.
I can see that. lol

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Even if a system existed, ones profile could be litered with dealbreakers.
Or littered with dealmakers. lol

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What might work is: if eH showed the text results..similar to what another site does. I find someone more interesting when I see there answer differs from mine.
Hmm..Interesting..

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My answer: no as well .. .. yes it is a standard personality test however here's my theory:
As you eluded to.. how objectively / subjectively are the personality tests filled out?
What exactly is their matching theory ..opposites attract?
I seem to get a lot of arty / flighty types, which I would describe as my opposite , but who I can't even relate to.

These dimentions, why height but not weight? Wait.... before I get bashed for using the "W": word... what I mean is .. .. it can play a role in life style and attraction. Sedentary vs. active for example.

Sometimes the only thing there seems to be in common is that we are both paying members.


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Do you think that eH's 29 dimensions of compatibility is accurate? Essentially, do you think that eH has done a good job matching you up with people who you are most likely to click with?

My answer is no.

Why?

Because..

It seems to me that the vast majority of "active" matches do not find my profile to be appealing(for whatever reason). I am not saying "all", but I am saying the vast majority.

I wish there was a better formula for eH to match us up with people who are truly "highly compatible" as their emails suggests when sending you a specific match. I just don't think it is really possible or maybe people simply lie when taking that personality test.

What is your take on this topic?

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This goes without saying, but I am curious in knowing if there is a better way to be matched up with people who will find my profile to be appealing and my pictures to be physically appealing.
here's a thought:
every once in a while they should have "spin the wheel day"..
meaning you click the "auto-magic" button-matchfinder-thingy.., and like a slot machine, anything within your age & radius parameters comes up...as long as everyone know it's that day.. whats the harm?
sometimes a little shake up, is a good thing..

We could even have Vannah White help out...she looks like she'd be game to do that.
 
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Do you think that eH's 29 dimensions of compatibility is accurate? Essentially, do you think that eH has done a good job matching you up with people who you are most likely to click with?
I would say maybe. Some matches when we have our first date I think are highly compatable, but most seem to be completely wrong not only for attractivness but for commonality.
 
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Let's say the 29 dimensions is the right way to go. You filled out the questionnaire, so you in essence decided what your 29 dimensions were. Maybe you filled it out the way you "thought" it should be or "want to be like" rather than really the "way you are" today.

I'm just saying the compatibility cannot be accurate if we cannot accurately assess ourselves.

I think overall I get matches who are very compatible. It's those little things (red flags, deal breakers, unrealistic expectations) that get in the way.

I should probably retake the test since it's been 5+ years. I'm sure my outlook on life is a tad different than way back then.
 
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I should probably retake the test since it's been 5+ years. I'm sure my outlook on life is a tad different than way back then.
If it's been 5 years, yeah..I would.
 
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