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Whale is offline Whale Post #1  January 8,2008, 2:01pm
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I find no attraction at all with people that are over weight. I like people that stay fit and I can wrap my arms around, pick-up and snuggle up close with. But yet, all my matches are over weight. And even though I have selected "THE WORLD" as a search I have 4 matches. This seems a little ridiculous for $60.00 a month. Who can I contact about this? I can't find an email address anywhere. So far this site seems like a rip-off.
 
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I have to admitt that I too am disappointed in "my matches". Most are way over my age limits and I just feel like this whole process is painfully slow for my "busy" personality!!! Maybe I'm not giving it enough time???
 
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Mr. Nice Guy is offline Mr. Nice Guy Post #3  January 9,2008, 12:48pm
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My advice is to just relax and learn how the system works. If you need assistance, click on help link that is at the bottom of every page on the eHarmony main site, then click on the matching link. There are good help articles there that can teach you how to receive plenty of great quality matches.

I hear that this takes time. They say it can take up to a year at the most to find a quality person to be matched with, but it's well worth the wait. ;-)
 
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It seems to me like there could be many matches that are not actually subscribers - which is why many matches don't reply. (I know I had matches immediately, and I hadn't paid yet so it makes me suspicious.) I also updated my preferences for it to be very important on the distance and the age range. Everything else, not so important. That has improved things a bit. Sheez, they were sending me matches that were 8 hours away. Yeah, sure, let's get together this Friday, shall we? But overall, I'm underwhelmed.
 
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rc/os is offline rc/os Post #5  January 15,2008, 7:52am
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I too, am overly underwhelmed with my "matches". They're either 12 years older than me, 500 miles away, "drink several times a week", don't know how to spell, put their children second to their cell phone or they simply are't attactive to me-if they even bother to post a picture of themselves. Sure, I re-set my preferences, then the "matches" are few, and far between. Oh well, I'm not in a big hurry, but I feel my money was well wasted.
 
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Pam_S52 is offline Pam_S52 Post #6  January 15,2008, 2:54pm
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Hi everybody..my name is Pam and I have been on eHarmony for over 2 years and I am still searching. I have to pray for a lot of patience.

I wanted to say one of the turn offs or question marks I get in my mind is when someone metions their exwife as being their best friend or the person who meant the most in their life. I am concerned with this statement that I might be compaired to the ex! I do not want to be compared anyone...Maybe that is not what the person meant, but it still leaves me feeling uneasy about the match. Maybe I just over reacted to the statement, what do youall think?

I have a match now that said he is conducting interviews to find who might be his next girlfriend! He states that he is favorite among the ladies, I don't know about youall, but I am not a teenager anymore and I am not hoping that the captain of the football team picks me!! I am not applying for a job!

Any comments on these subject would be greatly appreicated..any advice on how to get someone interested in you too, like I said I have been on this site over 2 years!!!

I will be 53 this month and I would really love to find someone to share my life with...thanks for listening...

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PAM_S52, I'm 45 and in your boat...except I've been on eharmony, on and off, for 4 (yes FOUR) years now!! So please don't mind if I eavesdrop and steal any of the advice you might get. And Mr NICEGUY, whoever told you it could take "up to a year at the most"...pleased to meet you!
 
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tamm is offline tamm Post #8  January 15,2008, 5:24pm
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I'm not impressed when it close to the end of your subscription, eharmony sends you a bunch of flexible matches who probably aren't even matches. It would be hard to build a relationship when someone is over 5 hours away. I doubt if most of them are even members. They are probably the people who sign up for the free weekends.
 
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Pam_S52 is offline Pam_S52 Post #9  January 17,2008, 10:38am
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Willsucceed, thanks for replying to my comments. I haven't received any advice yet. I am new using this community board. I have to say other diappointments I get from matches are when you see one you really like and hope they will respond to you, but all you get is a 'closed' responce! Usually it is because of distance...or we communicate for at least a month and out of the blue they decide to close the match cause they say they are not ready for the next step! What is the next step!?!?!? or the only thing they seem to be interested in is 'SEX'! I want the whole package not just a roll in the hay. I am a Christian lady and try very hard everyday to live my life the way the Lord would have me to. I don't know if I will continue to stay on eHarmony after March when my subscription expires, cause after over two years it leaves one wondering if these sites really work! I don't like to feel like this, but this is getting to be an expensive way to find your soulmate....I need to just let the Lord do His thing and then I will find my Mr. Right! I pray every night that He will send me someone to share my life with...I have been alone for over 5 years and I am lonely...I have so much love to give and share with someone, but it appears there are no takers! I will try to maintain my patience and keeping praying, today I could be one day closer to my miracle! So my friend, just hang in there with me and just maybe this could be our year! Thansk for listening....Pam
 
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wow! I am new to the eHarmony community. When I signed up I had no idea how it was suppose to work. I became a member in November, and have not had any matches. I was disappointed, but now I'm relieved to know this is not uncommon. I have been enlightened. Thanks all.
 
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