Navigator733 is offline Navigator733 Post #1  September 23,2010, 9:41am
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I want to give my number to a girl over eHarmony mail, but I want to make sure that I won't be closed if I do it. I know that if you give too much info, like sneaking your email address over guided questions, you can be closed or something similar. I just want to know if I can be penalized for giving my number to this girl. Thank you.
 
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I would think that would be just fine....but if you're nervous about getting the boot, maybe send this woman your personal email address and start communicting privately, instead of through EH.

You can also check with customer care...they respond pretty quick to questions...
 
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Hi Navigator.

It depends. If you are you are talking about providing an outside contact in the course of eHarmony Open Communication, that would be an ordinary use. If you were talking about requesting Fast Track communication in preference to Guided Communication, and were including an outside contact in the initial message on a consistent basis, someone would be bound to make a report sooner or later, and I don't think that eHarmony Dating would stand for it.

Some of the free sites use exactly this mechanism though. Sometimes new sign-ups to eHarmony with experience of these sites (Match.com comes to mind) proceed just they have in the past, and I suspect that they don't very well. The culture is different here.
 
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No, of course not!!!

You will NOT be violating any EHarmony Rules by giving your Phone Number and/or private (external) email address to your Match once you get to OC (Open Communication).
 
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As others have stated, you can do whatever you want once in eharmony mail. I do usually offer my email / phone, as well as some chit-chat. If they close, they close, but it won't be because you offered your email / phone, nor does eH prohibit this.
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I want to give my number to a girl over eHarmony mail, but I want to make sure that I won't be closed if I do it. I know that if you give too much info, like sneaking your email address over guided questions, you can be closed or something similar. I just want to know if I can be penalized for giving my number to this girl. Thank you.
 
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Navigator733 is offline Navigator733 Post #6  September 23,2010, 11:10am
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Thanks guys! A load off my mind. Fingers crossed that this one works out. Thunder cats are go!
 
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astro42 is offline astro42 Post #7  September 23,2010, 11:28am
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Navigator733 wrote :
Thunder cats are go!
I would be more worried about Thunder Cats references than phone numbers, just FYI.
 
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Navigator733 wrote :
I want to give my number to a girl over eHarmony mail, but I want to make sure that I won't be closed if I do it. I know that if you give too much info, like sneaking your email address over guided questions, you can be closed or something similar. I just want to know if I can be penalized for giving my number to this girl. Thank you.

How else would you be able to do it other than exchange personal emails and exchanging numbers there? People do it all the time. Wouldn't you think it would be odd for a site to not allow anyone to exchange personal information w/o infringing upon someone's civil liberties?

I believe that if it is wrong to exchange phone numbers then it should be wrong to exchange personal emails. So, how would two people meet each other? Just off of exchanging emails through this site only? I am not comfortable doing that.

You should be alright. Hope it works out for you.

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Hi Navigator733,

I appreciate you wanting to play it safe and check first to make sure it's okay to share phone numbers once you've reached the eHarmony Mail stage with a match. As you've already been informed, at that stage of communication, it's okay to share personal contact information. Before that stage, though, it is a violation of our Terms of Service.

As Tracyannk28 mentioned, Customer Care is always available to answer any of your questions through our FAQ page: eHarmony Support Home Page.

Good luck with this match. Hope you have some good news to share with us soon.

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astro42 wrote :
I would be more worried about Thunder Cats references than phone numbers, just FYI.

I am afraid to ask
 
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