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socalgal55 is offline socalgal55 Post #1  August 15,2010, 4:43pm
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Are there any filters as to what one can say on their profile? A recent match wrote in their additional info that he has ED but is working on it. I appreciate his honesty but this is just TMI for a profile. Has anyone had to deal with this?
 
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Some people don't know what to filter in or out of their profiles. They could also be responding to a negative reaction by someone because it wasn't in their profile to begin with.
 
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Chances are that this guy turned to the internet because he struggles to get 2nd dates. Chances are that this guy struggles at dating because he has mentioned his ED in casual conversation.

I know it seems cruel, but you should get to OC with him, and then let him know that this is something wildly inapproprate to mention (because apparently neither his upbringing, nor any other person has done so). Then close him out.
 
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Hi Socalgal55,

That sounds pretty personal, you may want to contact Match Concerns regarding this: matchconcerns@eharmony.com.

He may feel like he's obligated to put the "deal-breaker" out there so matches know up front and don't reject him later, but I don't believe that this is appropriate.

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