dude99 is offline dude99 Post #1  August 13,2010, 12:53pm

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Do nudges ever work or do they make a person look like the dreaded stalker?

Although in my case, I prefer the term admirer.
 
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They do and they don't

They work when people are new to the site, and don't realize it's their turn!
 
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dmi is online now dmi Post #3  August 13,2010, 1:00pm
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They're also useful for Free Communication Weekends. Sometimes the match doesn't realize they can communicate during that weekend and when they check the site they respond.
 
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dude99 is offline dude99 Post #4  August 14,2010, 10:23am

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dmi and trek,

Thanks!

That's good informantion to know....the things they don't teach you in eh school. Now I'm wondering about a couple of nudges I've sent when I didn't have your wisdom. If you send a nudge, does it stay on that persons home forever or disappear after a week or two?
 
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I use nudges to let someone know I really want to talk with them. I don't think they have ever worked for me, but I think it's better than just closing them.
 
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I haven't had much luck with them and I rarely use them now.

I might use them more if I could mass nudge or nudge right from the communication screen rather than having to go profile by profile.
 
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I'd say it probably makes you look really needy which is the last thing you want to look like especially if you are a guy going after a girl.
 
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Since you can only nudge once for each communication stage I can't see how they could be considered stalkerish.

As a general rule they don't have any effect. But it is not because they send some unwanted message because you sent a Nudge. It is because the person who has not responded is not a paying member and therefore is likely not active and has no clue that you even exist let alone have sent a communication or Nudge.

I save my nudge until there is a true FCW and then will send nudges to all matches that have not responded just before the FCW begins. I have had a number of matches then communicate during the FCW. I don't know if it was the fact that I had sent the nudge that got them to respond or not but I suspect that it had a lot to do with it.
 
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