He did a Bait & Switch on his Location-MARRIED!

Bizactly!...

AND!...

lindseyk knew my "rules" and agreed to them- even though they never really applied to her. but had she rejected me based on my "rules" we would never have gotten to know each other.

in the end, it seems to me that "rules" and "conditions" are just another way to filter people.

and that is not a bad thing.

You guys will never admit that married guys are out there and actively trying to cheat on these dating sites.

Who said that there wasn't?

Who said that there wasn't?
But the evidence, or lack thereof, that I've seen in this thread is not sufficient. Meaning there's not reasonable doubt(yet) to confirm he's married.
If you don't want to date him because of the phone thing, that's just a choice.
But to make the leap that you have made based on the info you've presented is just that...a leap.

You guys will never admit that married guys are out there and actively trying to cheat on these dating sites.

I hear what you're saying. And I did give him an opportunity. I heard him out . I could have closed him when he answered D) on the question about personal space in a relationship.

The last straw was when I asked for his pbone number, and instead of getting it, I got more of the same. "My company is in Connecticut and I will only see you on the weekend, and is this something that you want?"

The other thing you're not understanding is the tenacity and perseverance to which a married guy will go to have an affair. The only thing that stops them is the fear of being caught. This is exactly the kind of story they will try to sell you. Your only defense is the phone. And he wouldn't give it to me.

Having read many profiles of women openly cheating, I sure will believe it.

You have yet to give any data why that is likely in this case, howver.




I think it's a mistake to equate age with dating experience - much less online dating experience.

I think younger people are generally more experienced, especially as a percentage of their overall experience, than older people. In particular, persons who are from a divorce or other long standing relationship ... at 50, they may have little or no experience, while a 25 year old may have only online experience.




This is close to meaningless, insofar as it's a reason to close someone (especially when it's not real, just an assumption.)




This is not an answer I would have given, but I can see myself tiring of the inane, endlessly telephoning women, and putting this type of answer out there.




This, if true, is only proof not to marry the wrong person (or marry at all.)

Frankly, calling instead of meeting is more likely to be a cheater, not less. Real people meet, people with something to hide, hide.

Did you refuse to give her your phone number?
no- but i'll tell you what was odd to me. every other woman was hesitant to give out her number. or simply refused to give it. so i got used to offering mine- knowing that the ladies preferred to not give out theirs to a complete stranger. lindseyk, however, did not want to call me. she requested that i call her. so, i had to have her number. which was completely contrary to my every other experience with on-line dating.
Besides, you shouldn't compare with Lindsey because you guys conversed and interacted so much on these boards. This guy is a total stranger.
that i will give you. it never hurts to be too careful with a complete stranger. and i am sure that a good part of the reason i neglected my "rules" with lindseyk is because i had already known her for over a year here on the boards. and had previously exchanged many PMs and a few emails.
You guys will never admit that married guys are out there and actively trying to cheat on these dating sites.
i will admit it. and there are married ladies out there too. there are scammers and liars in all walks of life. and in all situations.
And no rules are not a bad thing. I actually did a ton of women a favor when I reported him. My rule is if he acts like he's married, I report him. And then he will have to work harder to cheat on his wife.

You're very argumentative today.