FaintestInkling is offline FaintestInkling Post #51  July 31,2010, 6:11pm
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The O.P. was a little ambiguous ... he wrote:

".... but in one of the emails i discovered that she is really 34, not 30 like her profile said..."

This probably means she "admitted it," but it could also mean she gave away enough information that he was able to Google her, or she otherwise made a reference to time/dates/events that gave it away.
 
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Preface: The age shown on all dating sites (that I know of) calculate that age from the date of birth that you enter when you sign up for the site. The age will increment every time you have a birthday. Therefore to have a bogus age indicates that the person has thought about this a lot more than just saying "I think I will put down a younger age."

I have never asked any of my matches to prove how old they are. However, on Match I have been matched to several girls who have some age on their profile and then in the body of their profile they will say that the age displayed is not how old they are and they may be older or younger than that age. Invariably they will also have things that are important to them listed, such as honesty and no game players. Well honesty is important to me and the only kind of games I want to play are cards and board games. So these I just close right away.

Then I get a lot of matches on Match where they say that they are some age and I look at their photos and have to think that they are either subtracting 10 years from their age or time has been really unkind to them.
 
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i was asking her, about her background... where she grew up and stuff...
she said: when she was 8 years old, back in 1984, she and her family moved to California.
so i did the math.... and that makes her 34, that is how i "discovered" her true age...

i need to ask her about our situation...
1st, i need to ask why she lied, or even if it was a typo?

2nd, i need to know if she wants to have kids right away...(because of the age thing) because like i said, i need a couple of years together before having kids...
 
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took me a couple of reads to understand OP means "original poster"....
 
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i don't think you can change your age if you made a mistake, peharps that is what happened.
 
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Maybe laugh about her "mistake" and ask why she made herself 4 years older in her story about moving to Cali. See what her reaction is to you noticing.

Most people who are deliberate about lying about things (age, height, weight, etc) are pretty good at keeping reality a secret via online stuff. If she did do this intentionally, it sounds as if she doesn't realize it (yeah, unlikely but possible) or she knows there is a mistake and "forgot" to mention it to you before now.
 
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nancymargritangelita wrote :
I've just been doing some testing on my key pad to see if may it was a typo on her part - I was thinking that maybe her fingers slipped accidentally when she was putting in the year she was born (if she's 30 she'd have been born in 1980, if she's 34 she'd have been born in 1976). There's no way that her fingers could slip up that much.
She'd also be 30 if born late in 1979. '79 vs '76 makes for easier typos.
 
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AndieIsMe wrote :
How do you know they aren't really 90 and just look 20?
I would get the shock of my life if that were true.
 
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chemgal wrote :
She'd also be 30 if born late in 1979. '79 vs '76 makes for easier typos.
You're right - I never thought of that. Easy typo to make.
 
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NYCpigeon wrote :
They are 20-something actors with graying hair.You can't make a 20 year-old look old no matter how much gray hair you put on them.
I can believe this. These companies will try anything to get us to buy into looking trying to look younger.
 
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