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I've just been doing some testing on my key pad to see if may it was a typo on her part - I was thinking that maybe her fingers slipped accidentally when she was putting in the year she was born (if she's 30 she'd have been born in 1980, if she's 34 she'd have been born in 1976). There's no way that her fingers could slip up that much.

Did she give you any kind of explanation for the age difference? What's the rest of her profile like?

It's odd, but "lying" about her age doesn't make her a chronic liar (meaning that it does not necessarily follow that she'll lie about everything else). If it concerns you that much, tell her that you're concerned about the error and about the new age difference. If the rest of her profile is ok and the in-person meeting goes well, it might be worth your while to let this mistake pass. As someone else said, you fall in love with the person and not the age.
 
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OP: if you like her, you can meet her and ask then. I was personally less upset about my match lying about her age than about one that said " a cat" in the profile and later admitted to having 5. Or several that listed how many hobbies and friends they have, but later admitted to working 80 hour weeks and having no time for hobbies or friends.
 
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She may be older than 34 also..
I would bet she's 39 who could pass for 34...
Oh what a tangled web we weave...
 
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If i do online dating again I'm lying about my age. i may even doctor my driver's license to really sell it. I'm serious.
 
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scarlet13 wrote :
If i do online dating again I'm lying about my age. i may even doctor my driver's license to really sell it. I'm serious.
do you feel the need to?
 
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TheThinker wrote :
do you feel the need to?
yes.
 
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Eh, I suspect it makes people wonder what else the liar is lying about.
 
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in my case, nothing. the lie is just to get my foot in the door.
 
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ScottK wrote :
But why? Why lie about her age?
She isn't 50, trying to find a young "stud"...

At her age, it is just strange to lie about her age like that.

Weird.
Because people are obsessed with youth. We live in a youth-crazed society. Turning 30 means you're old.

To me, lying by a few years is a vanity lie. It means nothing more than that. It's not pathological. It's not criminal. And to me, it's more a reflection on our society than anything else.

I've had matches that lied by 10-15 years. That, I will not accept.
 
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scarlet13 wrote :
i used to be someone who would close someone out over lying about age, weight or height on a profile.

I've changed my mind. if I like them, it gets a pass. i don't think it's indicative of future dishonesty.

people will fudge things on profiles because online daters are more picky than they'd be in real life, and great people might get passed over for the sake of a few inches of height or a couple years than noone would notice anyway.
A few inches? Some wouldn't even let the guy get away with rounding up by 5/8 inch!
 
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