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we have been exchanging emails for about a week or so, we both seem like a good fit.... but in one of the emails i discovered that she is really 34, not 30 like her profile said...
so, this makes her 5 years older than i am... i know for the "most" part age should not matter.... but why lie? why hide that from someone? why start something with a lie?...

should i confront her about this? should i ask her why? or just end it?
Without getting deeper into a philosophical 'fertility v.s. age' discussion, I will simply say a lie is a lie.

Lying about one's age/weight/height/occupation/religion etc are huge lies...that can make the liar look less appealing because they feel they have to lie about who they are to be appealing...which makes it look like they don't like something about themselves...and if they felt it was important enough to hide, you will see it as a flaw as well.

Some lies are little white lies like telling your mate you love football and icecream, when you know you don't, but you say it because these are things your mate likes...or when you lie when asked "Does my backside look big in this dress?" because you want to avoid confrontation.

However, even these so-called 'little white-lies' can be detrimental to a relationship because once the liar is found out, the other party is always hurt or confused...and feels a bit stoopid.

In my opinion, if a man/woman cannot be honest about the most basic, innocuous, information about him/her (some call 'little white lies)...he/she will have no problem with the much bigger lies about him/herself.

That...to me...is scary!...
 
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Truthaboutcupid, you'll find that on these threads there is a segment of women who just can't stand the fact that some guys can and do date younger women--and could do so for the long-term. One must learn to phrase things as to not offend some of the "past their childbearing years" set. It is what it is.

Unlike the poster who has accused you of bragging, I find your postitive and upbeat attitude refreshing. Too many guys on here make excuses and blame women for their real or percieved failures. Bravo, my friend, bravo!
 
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kipty_29 wrote :
we have been exchanging emails for about a week or so, we both seem like a good fit.... but in one of the emails i discovered that she is really 34, not 30 like her profile said...
so, this makes her 5 years older than i am... i know for the "most" part age should not matter.... but why lie? why hide that from someone? why start something with a lie?...

should i confront her about this? should i ask her why? or just end it?

So, I have not (and will not) read all 112 posts or however many there are on this thread (I've never even see this thread until tonight--and sorry I repost others' thoughts), but I did read the first few and the last few...I didn't anymore posts from the original poster (ohhh is that what OP stands for??? I've always wondered...LOL), so I wondered from reading his post that maybe her age was a typo in either the email or the profile? I mean, typos happen all the time. And I would think that if a woman was really going to lie about her age, it would be a bigger difference than just 4 years. At least like 8 years, if not 10 or more. I don't believe there was enough information given in the original post, and if that was all he knew, I think he should think about the typo thing
 
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kipty_29 wrote :
we have been exchanging emails for about a week or so, we both seem like a good fit.... but in one of the emails i discovered that she is really 34, not 30 like her profile said...
so, this makes her 5 years older than i am... i know for the "most" part age should not matter.... but why lie? why hide that from someone? why start something with a lie?...

should i confront her about this? should i ask her why? or just end it?

So, I have not (and will not) read all 112 posts or however many there are on this thread (I've never even see this thread until tonight--and sorry if I repost others' thoughts), but I did read the first few and the last few...I didn't anymore posts from the original poster (ohhh is that what OP stands for??? I've always wondered...LOL), so I wondered from reading his post that maybe her age was a typo in either the email or the profile? I mean, typos happen all the time. And I would think that if a woman was really going to lie about her age, it would be a bigger difference than just 4 years. At least like 8 years, if not 10 or more. I don't believe there was enough information given in the original post, and if that was all he knew, I think he should think about the typo thing
 
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Angelgal wrote :
So, I have not (and will not) read all 112 posts or however many there are on this thread (I've never even see this thread until tonight--and sorry if I repost others' thoughts), but I did read the first few and the last few...I didn't anymore posts from the original poster (ohhh is that what OP stands for??? I've always wondered...LOL), so I wondered from reading his post that maybe her age was a typo in either the email or the profile? I mean, typos happen all the time. And I would think that if a woman was really going to lie about her age, it would be a bigger difference than just 4 years. At least like 8 years, if not 10 or more. I don't believe there was enough information given in the original post, and if that was all he knew, I think he should think about the typo thing
I don't know, Angel, it's pretty difficult for a woman to get away with lying about 10 years. Maybe she figures that 4 or 5 years is easier to get away with?
 
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@Angelgal: The typo theory was discussed, but the OP confirmed the woman's age was 34 at Post #108.

Also, the OP didn't know what OP meant either (Post #54). So don't feel bad.
 
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rocchio wrote :
I don't know, Angel, it's pretty difficult for a woman to get away with lying about 10 years. Maybe she figures that 4 or 5 years is easier to get away with?

Well, online a person can get away with pretty much anything. Also, a person can photograph better than they look in person, annnd there are lots of women who can look up to 10 years younger than they are. I've gotten that more than once, which is awesome, lol

But also, like I said, maybe she wasn't lying at all, and she had a typo, or clicked on the wrong year for her profile.
 
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FaintestInkling wrote :
@Angelgal: The typo theory was discussed, but the OP confirmed the woman's age was 34 at Post #108.

Also, the OP didn't know what OP meant either (Post #54). So don't feel bad.

Oops! I accidentally skipped over this post when I made my last one...I'll have to check and see how he confirmed her age...

And thanks, good to know I wasn't the only who didn't know what OP stood for! lol
 
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FaintestInkling wrote :
@Angelgal: The typo theory was discussed, but the OP confirmed the woman's age was 34 at Post #108.

Also, the OP didn't know what OP meant either (Post #54). So don't feel bad.

Ok, so I read that post, but I did not come across anything that said why her profile said she was 30....
 
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No, unless I also missed it, either she didn't explain why her profile was wrong to the OP, or he didn't repeat it to us in the thread. Technically, we still don't know if it was a "lie."

That is the most reasonable explanation, IMAO, but innocent until proven guilty, and all that. I think neardc or somebody pointed out that it's an awfully long thread for not knowing if it was truly a lie ... [Of course I'm just as guilty as anyone for making it longer and longer ]
 
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