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scarlet13 is offline scarlet13 Post #21  July 31,2010, 11:43am
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Ephemera is online now Ephemera Post #22  July 31,2010, 11:46am
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OP,
Sorry, I assumed that you are Russian based upon your comment that you sounded just like Alexsandr Petrovsky from SATC.
 
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Ephemera wrote :
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Sorry, I assumed that you are Russian based upon your comment that you sounded just like Alexsandr Petrovsky from SATC.

The bigger point here is if you fill in stuff that can be interpreted one way or the other, that's how it will be interpreted.
(the languages "spoken" part is fine.)
If it were me, I leave off the accent stuff, as it isn't needed. (If you feel the need to let someone know you weren't born in the US, just say that.)
But if you're throwing the accent stuff out there because you think it's a positive, prepared to be shocked that it may not be.

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People generally notice that even though I've been living in New England for over 10 years, I still have my accent (similar to Aleksandr Petrovsky's in Sex in the City). I'm not a famous person, but often people from my town, who don't know my name, instantly recognize me because of my job."
This whole part reads like an inside joke that the reader isn't going to be privy to unless they contact you(and maybe not even the
n) Fine, if you're willing to take that huge of a gamble.
But for someone who's questioning why a certain demographic is closing them, you may want to re-think your strategy.

Profiles shouldn't contain riddles, they should contain answers.
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passat1 is offline passat1 Post #24  July 31,2010, 12:30pm
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Thanks for all who shared their opinion. It looks like I haven't blended very well as my predecessors from the spy affair did . I stand like a beam among the majority of other Eh population, which can be the partial reason for my hardship with Eh too.
 
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Hi passat -- I think it's a good profile. It's interesting, it's non-generic. I'm not surprised though that women with kids are closing you out. You don't mention wanting to be a parent anywhere, and the life you describe doesn't really have space for parenting in it. Are you sure you want kids? If you do, some comments below on how to put that in your profile (also a couple other unrelated comments).

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I will post the profile, and see if that could be a reason, but as I was getting responses from some members, it probably isn't the profile. However I will go from A to Z to research the trouble.

The one thing S is most passionate about:

I am passionate about love. I believe in love and the life giving energy that comes from it. But it's not just my love for my lover. It's the love of my work, my health, love for nature and for friendship. I don't see unknown people as strangers; I see them as people to learn something new from! I have a passion for people that have healthy, loving relationships and can make successful apologies (if needed). Move the rest of this to "additional info"; it doesn't fit here. My subscription recently expired. I am only here for the free communication weekend, when it is over I won't be able to communicate with paying members until the next free weekend. If you're looking around, find me on Skype. How can they find you on Skype?? I'd delete this sentence.

The most important thing S is looking for in a person is:

Somewhere out there is a great girl who will not only want to introduce me to new things, but will also like to try some adventures that are new to both of us. She will not only put up with my wacky moods, but she may even think they are cute, (even if she won't admit it.) The woman I would like to meet is confident and self assured, but isn't too much feminist. I am looking for a woman, who can keep me on my toes both when it comes to intellect and energy. I want to share both our passions, some of mine, some of yours, some new ones we find so we can do together our journey through life. I'm fine with this. But if you want kids someday or want to be considered by women with kids, perhaps add something to that effect here. "I look forward to being a dad/step-dad someday"

* About Me

Basic Information
Occupation: professional / management
Age: 37
Height: 5' 6"
Wants Kids: Yes
Kids at Home: No
Ethnicity: White, non-Hispanic
Religion: Christian
Drinks: A few times a year
Smokes: Never

In my own words
The most influential person in S life has been:

My friend Wesley a fighter jet pilot, who had crashed with his jet spent a month in a hospital with multiple injuries, found himself a courage and strength to return to combat flying ! Say how he's influenced you ... not clear here. Because you like excitement? he taught you perseverance? or what?

The three things which S is most thankful for:

* life
* love
* freedom

Three of S best life-skills are:

* Finding and taking on challenging activities
* Making new friends
* Finding pleasure and contentment in simple things

The one thing S wishes MORE people would notice about him is:

That I am a unique person that doesn't fit many if any stereotypes. Actually no one really fits stereotypes once you get to know them. This doesn't really say anything to me.

The things S can't live without are:

* the computers
* telephone
* Energy- Red Bull
* good friends
* soccer- FC Barcelona is my favorite team

The first thing people notice about S is:

People generally notice that even though I've been living in New England for over 10 years, I still have my accent (similar to Aleksandr Petrovsky's in Sex in the City). I'm not a famous person, but often people from my town, who don't know my name, instantly recognize me because of my job."

Some additional information S wanted you to know is:

Feel free to contact me to share our interests,and If looking for a real, long-term relationship and all the thrills that go with that – holidays, romance, and fun of course, I think you are on the right place, and it is the right time for you to click on Start Communicating button! I also speak Spanish and Russian languages, so if you like to communicate in either one, is fine with me. This would also be a good place to indicate you're interested in parenting.

My interests
S typically spends his leisure time:

I like spending my leisure time by doing things that I enjoy. Playing and watching soccer are one of my greatest pleasures, it gives me feeling of relaxation, appreciating all of the players who are giving all efforts from themselves and playing as a team to win the game. I also love just taking off in the car, train or plane and going exploring. That leads me to all sorts of adventures. I guess my life is kind of like the series of Indiana Jones: always on a new quest, pushing my imagination to the limits, and occasionally walking into things. There's no room in this list for a woman with children. They can't just take off on adventures. Are you sure you really want to be considered by women with children? It's not clear you really have space in your life for parenting.

The last book S read and enjoyed:

I like reading many books, but the last one I read was Seventeen Instants of Spring by Yulian Semyonov. This book is story about the life of Soviet spy operating in Nazi Germany and is about people, who were cut off their home, country, families in order to fighting with nazi criminals. Not so much about the supernatural qualities of a spy, but of the hard moral decisions that one has to make through the life in pursuit of accepting oneself for who one is and being happy with the life they are given.
According to my friends:

S friends describe him as:

* Dependable
* Ambitious
* Caring
* Hard Working
 
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The fact that at 37, you don't have kids in and of itself raises red flags with many.

And many singles with kids have been with singles that don't have kids that do not understand that their kids come first. Many of these people say that someone with that attitude should not date.

Are they making assumptions about you? Yes. However, if multiple dates with multiple people without kids produce the same result, then you can't blame someone for not trying again.
 
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in my 16 days as a member i have had 8 or 9 women contact me first. I have had another 4 or 5 respond to my questions when I iniated. None of the women with kids have iniated or responded to my questons.
 
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A guy with kids who presents himself as a loving father devoted to his children is far more likely to be attractive to single mothers than a never married guy with no children.

By the same token, I have found that as a father, I am much more inclined to date women who have children of their own. It's just been my own limited experience that women over 40 who never had children lack empathy or a true understanding of what it means to be a parent, such that I was never willing to introduce my children to them.

When kids are a huge part of one's life, there is often a disconnect on many levels when in a relationship with someone who does not have children.

The woman I am now dating has a child in my own children's age group, and they get along pretty well, which in my opinion is a big plus in the relationship.
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