JoyfullyLivingMaui is offline JoyfullyLivingMaui Post #1  June 10,2010, 7:37pm

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OK, I've put on my "big girl" all-weather coat, and I'm ready...
I'd appreciate feedback and suggestions from all on my profile. Particularly from the guys. Would you respond? Why or why not? My profile has photos but I'm told I'm attractive so I'm focusing on the content.

I 've been on eH for about a year. I get matches but they aren't truly matches for the most part. What the heck are "flexible matches" anyhow? I rarely drink, so I'm not interested in someone who drinks at least once a week!

Like others, it took me a while to figure out that the matches I get often aren't paying members and therefore cannot respond to me, but I still send out the questions when there's a chance because I cannot tell who is or isn't.

Anyhow, yesterday I finally received a match I was truly interested in. I shot off the first round of standard questions right away. Today I went to the communication page but he wasn't there. I found him (after seaching) in the "Archived" section. I'm concluding - although not certain - that that means he closed the match. My only available option on the screen was to "close" the match. Hunh? Jeeze, this is frustrating. Between the matching-with-non-matches and the guesswork required to figure things out on eH's end... But instead of giving up I'm turning to you all for help. Please let me know what you think.
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melman is offline melman Post #2  June 10,2010, 7:55pm
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Nothing wrong with this profile. It's fine.

I assume that your match pool is limited to whatever customers eH has in Hawaii. That's probably part of the problem. And that at least 75% of the matches you do get, will be dead profiles. "Flexible matches" are what you get when they try to stretch your preferences a bit because the well has run dry.
 
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JoyfullyLivingMaui is offline JoyfullyLivingMaui Post #3  June 10,2010, 8:02pm

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Thanks for your feedback, Melman. I'd wondered how much of an impact my living in Hawaii might have to do with it.
 
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I like your profile as is. If you think it's an accurate description of you, then don't change anything. If you're not sure, perhaps have a friend review it?

So. Let's look at other things.

Photos. Attractive or not, certain types of photos don't go over well. You might want to get your photos reviewed ... either paste them in this thread, or put in your EHA profile album and make the album public.

Preferences and settings. To get more matches, you have to widen your settings. Perhaps set them as wide as you can stand plus 1 notch.

Distance: I would imagine there are men out there who would be willing to move to HI for the right woman. LOL! Perhaps set your settings to "whole US" and then add into additional-info something like "I want to stay in HI ... if you're willing to relocate here, I'm willing to try a relationship that's initially long-distance". (If you are willing, that is.)
 
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JoyfullyLivingMaui is offline JoyfullyLivingMaui Post #5  June 13,2010, 2:00pm

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[quote=Sassafras... Perhaps set your settings to "whole US" and then add into additional-info something like "I want to stay in HI ... if you're willing to relocate here, I'm willing to try a relationship that's initially long-distance". (If you are willing, that is.)[/quote]

Thanks for your feedback, Sass. I had had the setting for the whole US in the past but then guys assumed it meant I was willing to relocate (not many locations could entice me to move away from here). Your suggestion is a very good approach.
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dannyboy451 is offline dannyboy451 Post #6  June 13,2010, 2:11pm
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I don't see anything glaringly obvious in here either. I think it's a very nice profile.
 
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JoyfullyLivingMaui is offline JoyfullyLivingMaui Post #7  June 13,2010, 2:24pm

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dannyboy451 wrote :
I don't see anything glaringly obvious in here either. I think it's a very nice profile.
Thanks, DB. I appreciate the look-over
 
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