Turned off matching - should I close out my matches?


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iamgermajesty is offline iamgermajesty Post #1  June 10,2010, 5:45pm
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I'm taking a break from eH for a while - partially because I've sort of met someone, partially because it hasn't been terribly fruitful - so I've been a good girl and turned off matching.

But does proper eH etiquette say I should close out all my matches? I have a big list who are either still floating in my new box or are archived. My subscription is still valid until August so I could communicate if contacted.
 
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livenlearn is offline livenlearn Post #2  June 10,2010, 5:48pm
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Leave it. You dont know how long your break will be or how this other will turn out. They probably wont contact you if they havent already. But who knows?
 
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I could go either way on this issue.

I periodically gave up, and when I did I closed all remaining matches before logging off for the last time.
 
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Well, if you let them sit long enough, and they get tired of looking at your name just sitting there on their list, they will close you.

I closed some, not all, of my matches the last time I left eH for a while. Some were still open, years later.
 
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Hi iamgermajesty,

That's a tough one since you have a few months left on your subscription and the relationship with this new guy is just getting started.

I'm inclined to agree with livenlearn, that it would be best to leave your options open for now. But that doesn't mean that, after, say about a month, you can't re-evaluate your matches and perhaps decide to only keep open only those you are very interested in.

And if you continue to periodically re-evaluate your matches in this way, should you decide to continue your eHarmony search at some point, the matches on your profile will be relatively new or matches that you are highly interested in. Hope that makes sense.

I wish all you the best with your new relationship and hope you will let us know how things go! But if you do decide to continue your search on eHarmony, we'd like it to be as fruitful as possible.

So please don't hesitate to share your concerns with Customer Care so we can help you have a better experience. And, of course, there is plenty of support and advice available here on Advice.

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Danke schon, everyone for your responses!

I agree that I'll just leave the matches there so if they suddenly come alive and decide to send some communication, that can happen. Or if things don't work out, maybe I'll start sending out waves of 1st Questions again!
 
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