hiddenlilly is offline hiddenlilly Post #1  June 9,2010, 7:07pm
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I'm having a issue with no one responding to my communication. How is this website supose to work if no one responds and I'm not being impatient eithier. I just want to check if I'm alone at this and if there is anything I can do to change it? help me
 
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Iconography is offline Iconography Post #2  June 9,2010, 7:18pm
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Hi, hiddenlilly! Welcome to eHA!

There really isn't anything you can do except be persistent. Yours is a frequently asked question. Most of your matches will be with non-paying members who can't respond to your attempts to communicate unless it happens to be a FCW (Free Communication Weekend).

I suggest you keep doing what you're doing--which is, I suspect, attempting communication with any match that interests you--and also make sure that your profile is as complete and well polished as you can make it. If you're not sure that your profile is good enough, you can ask for feedback from other eHA members, as you can see others have done in this board.

Good luck to you!
 
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There could be a lot of reasons someone won't respond to your first questions.

1. Non paying member
2. Already involved with someone else
3. Red Flags in your profile
4. Inactive member

If you have doubts about someone being a paying member, just wait until the next FCW. If you don't receive a communication back at that point you might want to consider closing the match.

If you think your profile might need some adjusting, you are welcome to post it here for review. There are instructions posted at the top of this board.

Welcome to the boards. I hope we can help.
 
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AndieIsMe wrote :
There could be a lot of reasons someone won't respond to your first questions.

1. Non paying member
4. Inactive member
And these are the biggest two. The majority of your matches are going to fall into this category. My own anecdotal evidence is about 90% of my matches fall into these categories. eHarmony disputes that number, but also refuses to reveal the percentage of paying members.
 
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I think it would be foolish for eH to reveal a number that is different for everyone. If they did a general number (percentage) that wouldn't be fair either. I am sure my number is much higher or lower than someone else's number just because of where I live.
 
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Hi!
I would love some feedback from other members about my profile but I don't see the instructions at the top of the board.
Help!
 
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It's a "sticky" thread you can click on at the top of the Using Eharmony homepage "PROFILE REVIEW INSTRUCTIONS"

http://advice.eharmony.com/boards/da...tructions.html
 
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