vlmnash is offline vlmnash Post #1  June 9,2010, 1:35pm
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Hi, I am new to eHarmony (less than a month). I am a 54 year old female, single, never married, no kids. I have been tweaking and tweaking my profile. I would appreciate comments and suggestions for improving it. I am especially interested in hearing from men on their read of my profile, but gladly would like female input as well. Thanks.

1. The one thing you are most passionate about:
I am a sports enthusiast (Predators, Titans, Braves and NASCAR). I enjoy a wide-range of activities from hockey to classical music.
2. What is the most important quality that you are looking for in another person?
Someone who enjoys life - from sporting events, to a variety of concerts, to a nice dinner out, or simply hanging around the house. I am looking for the person who is comfortable with himself, whether it is being alone, being with me, being with group of friends, or being around total strangers.
3. Other than your parents, who has been the most influential person in your life and why?
An English teacher from Jr High. He really allowed me to think outside the box, encouraged my writing ability and simply allowed me to grow as a person. Several years ago I met him again and told him about his influence on me.
4. Other than your appearance, what is the first thing that people notice about you?
I'm a good listener and conversationalist. I am versed on a variety of topics, and always enjoy learning new things.
5. What is the ONE thing that people DON'T notice about you right away that you WISH they WOULD?
How easy I adapt to a variety of situations. I am just as comfortable in formal settings as I am in casual settings. What can I say, I like fine wine, cold beer, and room temperature water.
6. What are five things you “can’t live without?”
1. Family
2. Friends
3. Sporting events
4. Books
5. Internet (it’s my livelihood)

7. Describe the last book that you read and enjoyed. What was it about? What did you like most about it?
Difficult question because I read a lot. In the last year, I've done a power read through all of Janet Evanovich's books (primarily the Stephanie Plum series). These have been fun, easy reads. Her character development is good, and she provides a lot of humor in her style. I also enjoy reading Bob Woodward books. The most recent two I've read are Secret Man and Wired. These are much more serious in nature, and provide interesting insights into people and events. Secret Man is about revealing who was Deep Throat and Wired is about the short and hard life of John Belushi.
8. Is there any additional information you would like your matches to know about you?
I'm a vegetarian (but I do eat fish, eggs, and dairy).
 
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I love the Stephanie Plum series!
 
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You're looking for "someone to hang out with". Aren't we all. But that's not really a "quality", is it? Think about that one some more.

Regarding the vegetarian thing. We have discussions about whether or how to put that in your profile. I think the consensus we generally come to is that if you don't object to others eating meat, that you are probably hurting yourself by mentioning it in your profile. Mention it later in communication if/when the need arises.

Otherwise, this profile really doesn't give me a very good idea of what you do and what your life is like. Others will say that if you have good pictures, that your profile content doesn't matter much. I don't totally agree with that... I like to get a picture of your "passions", whether that is a hobby, your job, etc. I'm not really getting that from what you've written.
 
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Hi vlmnash,I have a suggestion; for your passions statement you started by saying that you're a sports enthusiast. Perhaps you could expand on that and give a story or more details to interest guys. With a little more info they may find they have something in common with you. It will help to show a bit more of your passion like melman is saying.
 
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Thanks for the comments and suggestions. Before I officially change things, let me run them by to see if I am providing the details and insights that intrigue without being too verbose.

Passion.
I don't have simply one passion, so it is difficult to limit. I love sports, travel, and gardening. Whether its in-person or watching on TV, I love a variety of sports, including NASCAR, Predators hockey, Braves baseball, and Georgia Bulldogs football. I had season tickets to Bristol for several years, and managed to get pit passes twice! And, I admit I can hunker down and bark with the best from my alma mater. I also owned a travel agency (many years ago) and have traveled around the world. My favorite was the Kenyan safari. Since I have a new house, I am focused on landscape and flower gardens this year. In the past, I had a vegetable garden as the focus of my attention.

Looking for.
Someone who has a positive outlook on life. Someone who looks for the good in people. I believe the cup is always half full.

5 things can't live without.
1. Fresh basil
2. Walking shoes
3. Well-brewed cup of Joe
4. Hugs
5. Garden gloves
 
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This passion statement sounds more interesting to me. I would try to mention only two things that you're passionate about and provide a story. The sports enthusiast part is great, do you have a travel story or special reason you enjoyed the kenyan safari? I think your original "what I'm looking for" statement gave a better glimpse of the types of things you want to share. Your new "5 things I can't live without" are good and more unique.
 
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Those are major improvements, vlmnash -- you've made yourself into a much more multi-faceted person. I usually agree with Northern_Mirage's idea to limit "passions" to just 1 or 2 but really I like your paragraph as is.

I agree with Melman about the vegetarianism ... if you're willing to date non-vegetarians it's probably best to leave that out. (Also vegetarian here and have reached this conclusion.)

It's an intriguing profile and I hope it serves you well!
 
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vlmnash wrote :
Hi, I am new to eHarmony (less than a month). I am a 54 year old female, single, never married, no kids. I have been tweaking and tweaking my profile. I would appreciate comments and suggestions for improving it. I am especially interested in hearing from men on their read of my profile, but gladly would like female input as well. Thanks.

1. The one thing you are most passionate about:
I am a sports enthusiast (Predators, Titans, Braves and NASCAR). I enjoy a wide-range of activities from hockey to classical music.
Your new version of this is much better. This was just far too bland. This should be thought of as the introductory hook. One thing you could tell them that would make them want to know more.

2. What is the most important quality that you are looking for in another person?
Someone who enjoys life - from sporting events, to a variety of concerts, to a nice dinner out, or simply hanging around the house. I am looking for the person who is comfortable with himself, whether it is being alone, being with me, being with group of friends, or being around total strangers.
I liked this and thought it was OK as is. Gives me an idea if I would like the same things as you and if I would enjoy the time I spend with you.

3. Other than your parents, who has been the most influential person in your life and why?
An English teacher from Jr High. He really allowed me to think outside the box, encouraged my writing ability and simply allowed me to grow as a person. Several years ago I met him again and told him about his influence on me.
The last sentence seems superfluous to me. It doesn't reveal anything about you really.

4. Other than your appearance, what is the first thing that people notice about you?
I'm a good listener and conversationalist. I am versed on a variety of topics, and always enjoy learning new things.
seems fine to me

5. What is the ONE thing that people DON'T notice about you right away that you WISH they WOULD?
How easy I adapt to a variety of situations. I am just as comfortable in formal settings as I am in casual settings. What can I say, I like fine wine, cold beer, and room temperature water.
I would leave off the I like fine wine etc. It just sounds ... pretentious and like you're fishing for someone with money perhaps. Also ... I don't think it really works here to claim a character trait that somehow people don't notice about you, bc if you were indeed that thing people would notice it. I think of this section as one memorable thing about you that people won't notice immediately ... for mine I put that underneath my curly head of hair and goofy grin there lurks a science geek.
6. What are five things you “can’t live without?”
1. Family
2. Friends
3. Sporting events
4. Books
5. Internet (it’s my livelihood)
your new list is much improved


7. Describe the last book that you read and enjoyed. What was it about? What did you like most about it?
Difficult question because I read a lot. In the last year, I've done a power read through all of Janet Evanovich's books (primarily the Stephanie Plum series). These have been fun, easy reads. Her character development is good, and she provides a lot of humor in her style. I also enjoy reading Bob Woodward books. The most recent two I've read are Secret Man and Wired. These are much more serious in nature, and provide interesting insights into people and events. Secret Man is about revealing who was Deep Throat and Wired is about the short and hard life of John Belushi.
8. Is there any additional information you would like your matches to know about you?
I'm a vegetarian (but I do eat fish, eggs, and dairy).
Many people will close you based on this. They won't want to deal with trying to navigate food choices ... so only put this if it is important that they also be vegetarian.

Your improvements have livened up what you had here, but I think you could probably still spice it up a little bit, show some humor or spunk. Good luck.
 
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