2nd question litmus test to screen the humorless, miserable and uptight


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nunayabizness is offline nunayabizness Post #1  June 8,2010, 1:39pm

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I find a good way to sort out the humorless, miserable and uptight is to post ridiculous random questions for the second set of questions. Mind you, they are nothing sexual or offensive, just silly, off-the-wall and clever. They are obviously not meant to be serious. If someone reacts adversely, it is a good indication that she is going to be generally unpleasant.

If the response I receive is negative, I eagerly discard a match.

 
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Why don't you post one or two and let us judge?

Also, how do you decide what kind of question to send? Something in their profile? Do you purposely grab something from their profile and make it a potential deal breaker?

I also have to wonder why you would send your match something that has a very high potential of crossing them off your list (or theirs). Of course, that's me assuming a lot. So, post some of those questions. Your silly might be a woman's offensive.
 
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I love it when guys do that. Shows their personality, and I'm all for clever. The way the guided communication is set up at eHarmony it makes it a bit easy to fall into earnest communication. I am thrilled when a potential match is savvy enough to lighten it up.
 
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nunayabizness wrote :
I find a good way to sort out the humorless, miserable and uptight is to post ridiculous random questions for the second set of questions. Mind you, they are nothing sexual or offensive, just silly, off-the-wall and clever. They are obviously not meant to be serious. If someone reacts adversely, it is a good indication that she is going to be generally unpleasant.

If the response I receive is negative, I eagerly discard a match.

I love your boldness and clever ability to weed out the 'unwanted' in your preferences...very nice!
 
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AndieIsMe wrote :
Why don't you post one or two and let us judge?

Also, how do you decide what kind of question to send? Something in their profile? Do you purposely grab something from their profile and make it a potential deal breaker?

I also have to wonder why you would send your match something that has a very high potential of crossing them off your list (or theirs). Of course, that's me assuming a lot. So, post some of those questions. Your silly might be a woman's offensive.
I do not want to give an actual question I gave, because I like it that my anonymity on here allows me to be honest.

Like I said, they are not offensive or sexual. No one could possibly see them as offensive. The questions have nothing to do with their profile or themselves.

I tried to think of an example, but if it was funny, I wanted to save it in order to use it, and if it wasn't funny, then it would have been a bad example.
 
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But if you put forth one that you have use, and probably won't again, how does that hurt anything?
 
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And yet, dry sarcasm rarely travels through electronic communication. At least until the other person realizes that is your type of humor. Wish you'd post an example question. I can't think of one as I base mine on their profile information.

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But if you put forth one that you have use, and probably won't again, how does that hurt anything?
Because then if the match that he sent that one to saw it here, they would know who he was on this board. (I'm pretty sure that's not his profile pic...)
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Good post from AndieIsMe.

He does have a good idea, though. I have found that humor and creativity is so important to make women notice you.

I write my own questions more often than not, as well.
 
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I think it's a great idea to have one question that's really "out there". But only if what is stated in the profile seems to point at an easy going person who doesn't mind spontaneity
 
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