Luckyatcards is offline Luckyatcards Post #1  June 7,2010, 6:24pm
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So I originally opened a real eh account almost a year ago. In my first 3 month stink 3 dates with one match, 1 with another. Felt pretty good about it. Canceled due to holiday crazyness. I reopened during the velntines free communication. Accidentally got a second 3 months so now I'm in till august.

My second go at this isn't getting nearly as good results. I had one stage 4 during the fcw. Turned into a poofing. At current I have like 30 matches where I sent first. One match that sent me communcation first. A match I have no interest in.

I get a fair amount a day, 4-7ish. However quality is a huge problem. I had to up the importance of my distance because of the amount of preposterous matches I was getting. I live near philly, yet getting new york and other 2+ hour away matches.

I have other issues. People without pictures don't last long. Neither do people who don't put more than bare minimum into their profile. Usually check back another day or so later and if nothing, archived.

Are my standards to high? Can you actually lower your personal standards without lying to yourself?
 
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You may want to look at what your settings are from a slightly different point of view. Age, for example. Is this setting at your ultimate age limits (high and low)? Would meeting someone a year younger or older be a deal breaker for you?

Distance is a bit different for me, so I can only say adjusting those settings will have to be your own choice.

Religion. Are you extremely religious? Does it matter if your matches are?

Children settings. Whether you have or don't have will affect who you are matched with. Whether you will accept or not accept will also affect your matches as well. Is dating a single parent off or on your list? Is it truly a deal breaker?

The other settings you should look at as well. It's not about setting your standards too high, it's about setting your standards to what is realistic as well as acceptable to you.
 
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distance 60m
Don't like heavy smokers
drinking never a big deal
Okay with people having kids.
A maybe on wanting my own kids.
I am 28, range is 21-34
I'm not religious, don't care if partners are
Just turned down some college into high school Although from the looks of some profiles I've received college may not have been their strong suit

These all seem very generalized. In order to achieve a variety of matches. I can't see how imposing stricter limits on the more general ranges could help.
 
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Oh, and height. That one is a bugger, IMO. I had it as most important and I received very few matches and most were my height, not much taller. I put it at the lowest importance and received many more matches.

Based on the settings you have listed I can't really tell you why you wouldn't be receiving quality matches. You might need to play around with them a bit. Lessening the importance of one opens it up for the flexible matches eH sends out however.

Since you haven't complained about being closed by those you find interesting, it probably isn't your profile.

Though, if you have deal breakers listed on your profile (deal breakers for your matches that is) then you might not be seeing those you would find interesting. Are you a smoker? Do you list "Several times a week" or more on your drinking habits? Those can be turn offs for some women.

Play around some with your settings, see if things change day by day.
 
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Not a smoker,
Drinking listed at a few times a year.
height at not really important (i'm 5'8")

Doesn't feel like my profile is even getting looked at. In the past 2 weeks i've gotten 15 views. From the 27th of may to now I've gotten at least 19 matches, not including the ones that I've already archived.

Makes me feel as though the people whom I'm getting matched with never come back.
 
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Lucky, in addition to trying out changes to your settings, you can edit your profile. EH matches on personality, but also uses keywords in your profile. If you talk a lot about "fish" for instance you'll get matched with other "fish" people.

Beyond that, you could consider just contacting every match you get. If some woman did not fill out her profile well, but you end up meeting and she's the love of your life, are you going to care in 40 years that she's not a good profile-writer? Of course not. There's really nothing to lose in contacting matches.
 
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