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scully98 is offline scully98 Post #1  June 7,2010, 6:13am
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I have been on eharmony for about 6-7 weeks. I've gotten some interest, but I'm wondering if my profile pics are okay. A jerky guy just emailed me to tell me that he can't tell if I have a waistline in one photo, my full-length one, because my sleeve is partially hiding my waist. And he says the oversized sunglasses are unattractive. He asked me to send him several more so that he could tell if I was "worth the 50-mile drive" to meet. Sigh.

Also, I've lost about 10 lbs since I took these photos in early April. Not sure if that makes a big difference in a small photo.

Everyone I've met in person - four guys so far - say that I look exactly like my photos. So I don't think they're misleading.

Any opinions on whether I should snap new photos? I made a point to include my young son in a couple to make sure any guy knows what a big part of my life he is. Also, since he's so young, it's not an invasion of his privacy at school or anything like that.

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melman is offline melman Post #2  June 7,2010, 6:20am
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Absolutely nothing wrong with these pictures. Close out the guy who demanded more. He's not being considerate.

For what it's worth, and since you asked... since you have a close-up without the sunglasses, the close-up with them seems unnecessary. And in the close-up without the sunglasses, and in the first picture with your son - you are in the shade. Edit these pictures if you can, to brighten them up at bit.
 
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thank you.

I'm 42, for what it's worth. not that that matters in the realm of picture quality, etc.

maybe I will take out the second sunglass one. I only put that in because a photographer friend told me it was flattering.
 
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You look fantastic!

You dodged a bullet on that one guy!
 
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Close that crud ball.
The guy obviously thinks too highly of himself.
 
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They're fine.

I especially like the last one!
I remember when my son was that age...it was a neat time.
 
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Personally, photos with sunglasses is a pet peeve of mine. Since you have at least one close up without them, that's fine. However, that close up is pretty dark so it's possible that he can't really see your face well on his computer since the photos can be pretty small. Given distance involved, I don't think it's an unfair request of him. Personally, I do want to see the person's face clearly and without the obstruction of sunglasses.
 
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50 miles is a long way?
Where do you people live? Some small island where everything is in walking distance?
Its no wonder no one finds anyone if they are not willing to take a drive.
 
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Which one are you using as your primary photo? There should be no sunglasses in the primary one. Can you photoshop the close-up with no glasses to be lighter and use that? If not, get one more close-up with no glasses for the primary.

They're all very nice photos. That guy was a jerk.
 
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The guy's an idiot. I can easily tell from the last photo 'whether or not you have a waistline'.

In my opinion, the first photo of you with your son is too dark to be of much use. I would lead with the sunglasses-free headshot and have the fullbody shot with your son as the second pic. Those are the two best pics. I suppose there's no real reason not to include the other two since e-harmony gives you space for twelve pics.

I also don't consider a 50 mile drive to be particularly long.
 
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