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Cape_Codder is offline Cape_Codder Post #1  June 6,2010, 1:13pm

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When reviewing a profile there are certain factors that stand out and typically cause me to close or archive a match immediately. I was wondering if this is true for everyone.

If I receive a match who repeatedly informs me that her children will always come first or, that her life evolves around them I archive the match immediately. I personally don't want to be in a relationship where the kids come first, second and third. Repeated references to the same issue are typically a red flag for me.

If you have certain issues that cause you to react the same way, what are they?
 
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I would close right away for:

- Too far away.

- Children having or wanting.

- Gold-digger.

- Animals as important.

- Poor / stupid / uninformed.

- Incompatible lifestyle.

- God / theology.

- Baggage.

- I know I can't measure up to a reasonable expectation she has.
 
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-hates cats or allergic
-makes demands in profile
-children
-any reference to "nice guy"
-overly religious
- extreme dedication to any sports team, mentioned more than once or every pic wearing team jersey
 
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When I read that:
- she looks forward to spending my money
- interests include shopping
- exercise is fantasy based
- idea of roughing it is pitching a tent in the lobby of a 5 star hotel
- immature
- inconsistent stories
- not funny
- hates ducks
 
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howardtheduck wrote :
When I read that:
- she looks forward to spending my money
- interests include shopping
- exercise is fantasy based
- idea of roughing it is pitching a tent in the lobby of a 5 star hotel
- immature
- inconsistent stories
- not funny
- hates ducks
I do enjoy Peking Duck!
 
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* More than one reference to physical fitness or religious faith in his profile. I am a Christian and maintain healthy habits, but don't feel the need to repeatedly broadcast those aspects of myself to a potential match.

* References to sex, incl. in the "things X can't live without" part of the profile. It's a given that sex is a part of a loving relationship, but I don't think people need to be that obvious about it right off the bat.

* Any of the following:

1) Photos of him posing shirtless

2) Photos of him posing next to his car, motorcycle, truck, etc.

3) Those weird, kinda creepy-looking cell-phone photos taken while he is looking in the bathroom mirror. I mean, surely people have some ordinary photos of themselves taken by friends or family, don't they?

4) Group photos or photos that are so small you can't figure out which person he is. Also, photos that are not of him but of inanimate objects such as his boat, his skis, his basketball, etc.

* Appallingly bad spelling or grammar. A typo or two is OK, but repeated grammar and spelling mistakes are turn-offs.
 
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Cape_Codder wrote :
Too far away is one factor that I recently changed my immediate reaction to. Unfortunately, the few good matches I've received are potential LDR's. I guess I'm just at the point where I will travel if it means the possibility of meeting an exceptional person.
Not for me. If I'm involved with someone, I like to see them often.
 
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Cape_Codder is offline Cape_Codder Post #9  June 6,2010, 2:11pm

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I specifically did not post my thread under "using Eharmony" for two reasons:

First, I was referring to profiles in general, not just eHa.

Second, The thread relates to the initial phase of the dating process and deciding who we are going to proceed with. It has nothing to do with using eHa.

Also, this subsection is never reviewed by readers so in essence the thread will not be seen.

Why do they feel the need to move threads?
 
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Cape_Codder wrote :
I do enjoy Peking Duck!
 
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