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goldengirl7676 is offline goldengirl7676 Post #1  June 5,2010, 6:59pm
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Have any of y'all been closed out by a match once you've reached OC? I mean when you've reached the point at which you exchange cell phone numbers and your personal e-mail addresses? Just wondering what that means. I still keep my open matches in my inbox and don't close them out after we've exchanged phone/e-mail info.
 
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Why are you exchanging phone numbers and email addresses when you reach OC? I mean, I guess I could see doing this after you've made plans to meet (although I don't even think that's necessary), but before that? I don't see why you'd do that.
 
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melman wrote :
Why are you exchanging phone numbers and email addresses when you reach OC? I mean, I guess I could see doing this after you've made plans to meet (although I don't even think that's necessary), but before that? I don't see why you'd do that.
I honestly just shake my head when I see your views of the site sometimes. Most people like to get a decent idea of who they are talking to before they meet and what the interest level is like. Sending a couple emails and one or two phone conversations is a good way to do that.

Remember melman. You want good dates and not just dates.
 
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melman is offline melman Post #4  June 5,2010, 8:40pm
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Don't start this argument again.
 
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goldengirl7676 wrote :
Have any of y'all been closed out by a match once you've reached OC? I mean when you've reached the point at which you exchange cell phone numbers and your personal e-mail addresses? Just wondering what that means. I still keep my open matches in my inbox and don't close them out after we've exchanged phone/e-mail info.
Yes I have done that. Often it depends on how many people you are talking to at the time and how well the communication has gone up to that point. If the emails or phone conversations have not been very interesting or it is simply difficult to communicate with them I will close them. No point in meeting somebody like that.
 
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Well, until EHarmony took away the Closed Reasons, it was easier.

You could Close someone with a reason of "Because we are talking outside of EHarmony" without having the Close be misinterpreted.

As for myself, I generally will just leave it open while we are talking/chatting/meeting in real life.

That way I can quickly find the Match and my early emails to her, if I ever have a reason to.
(For example, if I just can't remember if she has 1 brother or 2, or she grew up here or there)

If the Match in real life doesn't work out and either one of us decides to pull the plug, then I will generally go into EHarmony and Close the Match, as at that point, there is no reason to keep it Open.
 
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Yes, I've been closed after exchanging a few emails but before giving personal contact info or meeting face to face. I figure it means they have a better match they're pursuing.
 
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What am I missing? I don't even see a way to close someone out anymore. When I look at my matches and do the whole rigamaroe, I don't see "close match" anywhere so I got a slew of old matches I can't discard, and they will only let you have so many before they stop sending you more.
 
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You have to archive them first, then open their profile while archived and there's a close option
 
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Altair wrote :
What am I missing? I don't even see a way to close someone out anymore. When I look at my matches and do the whole rigamaroe, I don't see "close match" anywhere so I got a slew of old matches I can't discard, and they will only let you have so many before they stop sending you more.
Actually you don't have a limit on matches. I think they did have a limit for non paying members at one point, but I've been told that has changed as well.

When you archive a match you then have the option to close the match. If you are in communication with a match you only have the option to communicate or close.
 
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