AnnaM is offline AnnaM Post #1  June 5,2010, 6:05pm
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The one thing Anna is most passionate about:
I am most passionate about working hard to live my life enjoying what I have. This is not to say that I don't have thoughts of what it may be like to win the lottery and have plenty of "things". Things are nice, but truly enjoying what we have means to know that all the "things" are not what's most important. What's most important is the people we love and who love us. Enjoying what I have means to truly enjoy and be happy with those around me and treat them as such.

The most important thing Anna is looking for in a person is:
Honesty. Someone who feels it is important to be upfront and not just saying what they believe the other person wants to hear. A genuinely trustworthy person, basically.

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Occupation: Mortgage Sales Associate, Mortgage Processor
Age: 39
Height: 5' 5"
Wants Kids: No
Kids at Home: Yes
Ethnicity: White, non-Hispanic
Religion: Neither religious nor spiritual
Drinks: A few times a year
Smokes: Never


In my own words
The most influential person in Anna's life has been:

My grandmother. She was the first person in my life from who I felt and learned unconditional love.
The three things which Anna is most thankful for:
* My family. I am thankful to have a caring family who genuinely wants the best for me always.
* My son. My son is the light in my life and I am so lucky to have him.
* Every laugh. Laughter and having fun doing the little, everyday things with the people closest to me.

Three of Anna's best life-skills are:
* Finding pleasure and contentment in simple things
* Maintaining an organized life
* Managing my finances

The one thing Anna wishes MORE people would notice about her is:
That, although I am shy at first, I am a very good listener and am genuinely interested in other peoples' thoughts and opinions.
The things Anna can't live without are:
* My son.
* My family.
* Eyesight.
* My pets.
* A diet coke every day.

The first thing people notice about Anna is:
I'm very soft-spoken. I am not loud and obnoxious.

Some additional information Anna wanted you to know is:
I really am what I am. I don't try to play games and I don't keep secrets. I have wondered if I'm a rare bird in these respects.
My interests
Anna typically spends her leisure time:

I love to watch movies at home. Sitting on the couch enjoying a good movie with someone special is better than any dinner out. In my leisure time I will go outside and garden, watch a movie, read a book, walk on the treadmill or go to a friend's house.
According to my friends:
Anna's friends describe her as:

* Dependable
* Loyal
* Generous
* Intelligent
 
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Here is the standard advice I give to most profiles.

1. Your "passion" needs grab the reader's interest and make him want to continue reading. If I received this profile, I'd stop reading seriously by the end of the first sentence. Too many matches give a vague cliche answer like "I am passionate about living life to the fullest." I like to see a hobby or activity that gives an insight into what your life is like. If your best friend was trying to convince me to ask you out, what would he/she tell me about you? Focus on one or at most two passions - describe them and show why they are important to you.

2. "I am shy at first" is another thing that EVERYONE says. So don't. You'll earn points simply for saying something else.

3. Drop "I am not loud and obnoxious." Don't make statements about what you are not. Focus on what you are.
 
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AnnaM wrote :
The one thing Anna is most passionate about:
I am most passionate about working hard to live my life enjoying what I have. This is not to say that I don't have thoughts of what it may be like to win the lottery and have plenty of "things". Things are nice, but truly enjoying what we have means to know that all the "things" are not what's most important. What's most important is the people we love and who love us. Enjoying what I have means to truly enjoy and be happy with those around me and treat them as such.
Hi Anna,
This is a common response to this question. It sounds nice but it won't make you stand out. I think you can expand on the first part. Do you relly love your job? That's the impression I got from reading this. It's great if you do but you may not want to put it here as a main focus. You may give the impression as if you are all or at least mostly about your work. You said you like to work to enjoy what you have. What does this mean? What do you like to do? This should be what you expand on because this is what you are the most passionate about. As other reviewers have pointed out on other threads, it is better not to list a bunch of hobbies here or list things like family, friends, career. These responses are very common. Pick one or two things that make you want to get out of bed in the morning and expand on them.
 
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Great, thanks for the suggestions!! I'll get to work on those things.
 
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You list eyesight as one of your 5 CLWO. interesting item. You have your son and family in both lists. I would combine them on one list and add something else about yourself.

I won't make many suggestion because I am also a woman and I'm not your target audience. We need to wrangle up some men to come have a look.
 
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Hi Anna,
I actually like it pretty much as is, though the above suggestions are good. The impression I get of you from reading it is: you are a quiet, family-centered, home-centered person, who cares deeply about her relationships; you're people-oriented and value straightforward no-games relations with people. If that's accurate then you've conveyed yourself well. If it falls short, you might want to edit.

The "eyesight" under what you can't live about ... perhaps clarify that? It's perplexing and could mean a million things. People will make odd interpretations of it if you're not clear.
 
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AnnaM wrote :
The one thing Anna is most passionate about:
I am most passionate about working hard to live my life enjoying what I have. This is not to say that I don't have thoughts of what it may be like to win the lottery and have plenty of "things". Things are nice, but truly enjoying what we have means to know that all the "things" are not what's most important. What's most important is the people we love and who love us. Enjoying what I have means to truly enjoy and be happy with those around me and treat them as such.
This describes everyone on the planet. It's not that it's not true or unimportant, but it's just not memorable. We need something here that is inviting and that shows your personality and fire. This won't do it because it's too ordinary, and it's too ordinarily stated. If you choose an ordinary passion like this, you must state it extraordinarily. I would choose something more distinctive about you to lead off with. You will stand out from the crowd.


The most important thing Anna is looking for in a person is:
Honesty. Someone who feels it is important to be upfront and not just saying what they believe the other person wants to hear. A genuinely trustworthy person, basically.
Rather than stating qualities you want in a person — who doesn't want honesty after all — I might go with something more like how you'd like your life to look with this other person.

I still kind of struggle with what to do with this one myself, so that's just a thought. I based it on a profile I saw that went through activities the person wanted to do with someone else and how often. While that wouldn't have suited me, I could definitely see right off whether I fit that person's ideal life.

There's certainly no dealbreaker here, but it's just not a memorable trait bc everyone puts this or something like it.



Basic Information
Occupation: Mortgage Sales Associate, Mortgage Processor
Age: 39
Height: 5' 5"
Wants Kids: No
Kids at Home: Yes
Ethnicity: White, non-Hispanic
Religion: Neither religious nor spiritual
Drinks: A few times a year
Smokes: Never


In my own words
The most influential person in Anna's life has been:

My grandmother. She was the first person in my life from who I felt and learned unconditional love.
The three things which Anna is most thankful for:
* My family. I am thankful to have a caring family who genuinely wants the best for me always.
* My son. My son is the light in my life and I am so lucky to have him.
* Every laugh. Laughter and having fun doing the little, everyday things with the people closest to me.

I would just incorporate the son into the family and choose something else for the second thankful. I like the laughter one. That's a good one. Makes you seem warm and generous the way you have written it.
Three of Anna's best life-skills are:
* Finding pleasure and contentment in simple things
* Maintaining an organized life
* Managing my finances
these are fine

The one thing Anna wishes MORE people would notice about her is:
That, although I am shy at first, I am a very good listener and am genuinely interested in other peoples' thoughts and opinions.
The things Anna can't live without are:
* My son.
* My family.
* Eyesight.
* My pets.
* A diet coke every day.
only mention the child once. Otherwise it can make it seem that you don't have room for a guy in your life. Guys really wonder whether a single mother will make them a priority in a long-term relationship, so I wouldn't hide that you have a son, but I would be careful how you present it.


The first thing people notice about Anna is:
I'm very soft-spoken. I am not loud and obnoxious.
this isn't a dealbreaker, but how memorable is it? I would try to think of something a little more memorable and spunky or sassy to put here.


Some additional information Anna wanted you to know is:
I really am what I am. I don't try to play games and I don't keep secrets. I have wondered if I'm a rare bird in these respects.
I don't like it. Too much chip on the shoulder here. You want this to be something attractive, memorable, that invites immediate contact. This makes me wonder what sort of bad relationship you are coming out of and whether that baggage is going to color your attitudes and make dates unfun.

My interests
Anna typically spends her leisure time:

I love to watch movies at home. Sitting on the couch enjoying a good movie with someone special is better than any dinner out. In my leisure time I will go outside and garden, watch a movie, read a book, walk on the treadmill or go to a friend's house.
This seems OK to me. It might not be very memorable. But there are no dealbreakers and it does make you seem like someone who is low maintenance, so that is a plus.

According to my friends:
Anna's friends describe her as:

* Dependable
* Loyal
* Generous
* Intelligent
these are fine

Overall it's not a bad profile. It's not very memorable, however. I think it could use some spice to liven it up a bit. You don't want to see too bland, because that's just blah. I would try to sass it up a tiny bit, but don't lose the warmth and generous spirit it seems to convey, as these are attractive qualities too.

Good luck.
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Thanks everyone for all the input! I really appreciate it. I've made some changes and would love to hear what your critiques...the passion thing is still getting me and it's the first thing people see...it's a work in progress.

Lay it on me...don't hold back!!


The one thing Anna is most passionate about:

Right now my garden is my passion. I have a small vegetable garden and I work on it every day. My dad taught my sisters and I about gardening when we were young. At the time we didn't appreciate picking green beans in 95 degree heat, but now I see the lessons learned. Growing my own vegetables is a joy. Feeding them to and sharing them with my family and friends is an even greater joy.

The most important thing Anna is looking for in a person is:

Someone to share the days with. A companion, a best friend, and a confidant. A life partner to travel with and hold hands when we go for a walk.

The most influential person in Anna's life has been:

My grandmother. She was the first person in my life from who I felt and learned unconditional love.

The three things which Anna is most thankful for:

* My family. I am thankful to have a caring family who genuinely wants the best for me always.
* My eyesight. I love flowers, nature, and just watching the clouds go by. I can't imagine never seeing these wonderful things. Plus, I can't imagine never being able to see my son again.
* Every laugh. Laughter and having fun doing the little, everyday things with the people closest to me.

Three of Anna's best life-skills are:

* Finding pleasure and contentment in simple things
* Maintaining an organized life
* Managing my finances

The one thing Anna wishes MORE people would notice about her is:

I am a good listener and am genuinely interested in other peoples' thoughts and opinions.

The things Anna can't live without are:

* Treadmill--it keeps me feeling young
* Cell phone--it keeps me in touch with everyone
* Computer--everything is on the net!
* Pets--they're really happy to see me
* A diet coke every day--it's just good

The first thing people notice about Anna is:

I would say that people notice that I'm soft spoken and a bit mysterious. I'm not one to draw attention to myself or divulge lots of information about myself to someone I've just met so that makes me a little mysterious...I leave them wanting to get to know me better to figure me out!

Some additional information Anna wanted you to know is:

I am what I am. I don't try to be anything but me so I'm not a different person depending on the group of people I'm with.

My interests
Anna typically spends her leisure time:

I love to watch movies at home. Sitting on the couch enjoying a good movie with someone special is better than any dinner out. In my leisure time I will go outside and garden, watch a movie, read a book, walk on the treadmill or go to a friend's house. Hey, I also love to be wined and dined once in a while!

According to my friends:
Anna's friends describe her as:

* Dependable
* Loyal
* Generous
* Intelligent
 
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AnnaM wrote :
Thanks everyone for all the input! I really appreciate it. I've made some changes and would love to hear what your critiques...the passion thing is still getting me and it's the first thing people see...it's a work in progress.

Lay it on me...don't hold back!!


The one thing Anna is most passionate about:

Right now my garden is my passion. I have a small vegetable garden and I work on it every day. My dad taught my sisters and I about gardening when we were young. At the time we didn't appreciate picking green beans in 95 degree heat, but now I see the lessons learned. Growing my own vegetables is a joy. Feeding them to and sharing them with my family and friends is an even greater joy.
I like this one, much better. You seem warm and family-oriented and generous. All good attractive qualities.


The most important thing Anna is looking for in a person is:

Someone to share the days with. A companion, a best friend, and a confidant. A life partner to travel with and hold hands when we go for a walk.
This seems ok to me.
The most influential person in Anna's life has been:

My grandmother. She was the first person in my life with who I felt and learned unconditional love.

The three things which Anna is most thankful for:

* My family. I am thankful to have a caring family who genuinely wants the best for me always.
* My eyesight. I love flowers, nature, and just watching the clouds go by. I can't imagine never seeing these wonderful things. Plus, I can't imagine never being able to see my son again.
* Every laugh. Laughter and having fun doing the little, everyday things with the people closest to me.

Three of Anna's best life-skills are:

* Finding pleasure and contentment in simple things
* Maintaining an organized life
* Managing my finances

The one thing Anna wishes MORE people would notice about her is:

I am a good listener and am genuinely interested in other peoples' thoughts and opinions.
No. If you really were this, people would notice it. This needs to be something attractive that people cannot notice right away. Anything people could notice but somehow mysteriously don't just makes it seem that you don't have the trait and only think you do. You don't want to appear clueless as to how you're really coming across socially.
The things Anna can't live without are:

* Treadmill--it keeps me feeling young
* Cell phone--it keeps me in touch with everyone
* Computer--everything is on the net!
* Pets--they're really happy to see me
* A diet coke every day--it's just good

The first thing people notice about Anna is:

I would say that people notice that I'm soft spoken and a bit mysterious. I'm not one to draw attention to myself or divulge lots of information about myself to someone I've just met so that makes me a little mysterious...I leave them wanting to get to know me better to figure me out!
It would be best to end it at the first sentence. The rest is just trying to hard to convince me that you're mysterious. I'm mysterious. really I am! Just ask me I'll tell ya! That's how the extra stuff comes across.


Some additional information Anna wanted you to know is:

I am what I am. I don't try to be anything but me so I'm not a different person depending on the group of people I'm with.
I don't see this as all that warm and inviting to a man. But I'm not a man, so I could be wrong. It kinda seems to me like it's a little bit look down your nose at others who you think are two-faced.


My interests
Anna typically spends her leisure time:

I love to watch movies at home. Sitting on the couch enjoying a good movie with someone special is better than any dinner out. In my leisure time I will go outside and garden, watch a movie, read a book, walk on the treadmill or go to a friend's house. Hey, I also love to be wined and dined once in a while!
seems fine to me


According to my friends:
Anna's friends describe her as:

* Dependable
* Loyal
* Generous
* Intelligent
This is much improved. Good work and good luck out there!
 
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Hi Anna,

Much better. I like the changes!
 
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