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pussinboots is offline pussinboots Post #1  June 5,2010, 1:13pm
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Has anyone ever had a response or had questions sent by a match who had not filled out "The most important thing [the match] is looking for in a person is..."
 
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I usually don't send questions to those that haven't filled out that portion of their profile.
 
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Yes.

One of the big mistakes people make is to assume that incomplete profiles are lazy or non-members.

Often (in my experience) they were brand new people. These can actually be your best matches - instead of the usual jaded or self-centered people who hang around for years.
 
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I recently joined POF also, where there are a lot of active people and not only a half dozen states away. It's not all good, but I had my first meeting within two weeks of joining.
 
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I am also on POF but I have found the men to be interested in hooking up and not on developing a relationship. I get a lot of messages that start out "Hey, baby, you know you're beautiful, right?" Um, ew! And I am by no means beautiful so I know it's a crock.

I'm sure there are some nice guys on POF, just as there are on every dating site, but for me--well I'm doing better on eH in regard to finding quality matches. And this isn't a plug for eH, just my recent experience. Maybe it will ease off--I've only been on four months--who knows.
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Here's the thing, pussinboots. eHarmony and POF are two totally different kinds of sites. One is geared more towards you getting to know your match. The other is more geared towards people who want hookups. They could also be frustrated eH, Match or some other e-dating site user, but hookups seem to be the norm.

Not saying you can't find someone special on that site, but there are reasons why POF is free. I also used POF and received 20+ e-mails in the first 24 hours. I live in a rural area and never received that many responses so quickly. I was "enthused" until I started communicating with the people who e-mailed me.

Frankly, most seemed like bottom feeders. They didn't read profiles and were eager to get/give a phone number and meet. But, not in a positive way. Most men lied about something on their profile or were "separated" and not looking for anything but a roll in the hay.

Comparing the two really isn't fair.
 
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Gee, BookGal and AndielsMe, where does the line start to get a hookup only on POF? And here I was looking for a long term relationship. JUST KIDDING - about the hookup part!

I joined POF because eH has basically stopped sending me new matches and of all those I'm pretty sure most were non payers - hence the topic I started.

I also joined POF because a good friend, ignoring the hookup suggestions from several matches, found someone to date for a while and now has found another who may be the love of her life.
 
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