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TrailRunner99 is offline TrailRunner99 Post #1  June 4,2010, 2:22pm
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I've noticed that when I started open communication with some ladies they will look at my profile that day, then again a few more times over the next few days, but never respond. Any reason for the repeated viewing but no response? Do many of you take your time in replying or is it one view and you know that you're going to or not going to respond?
 
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AndieIsMe is offline AndieIsMe — Advice Member-Moderator Post #2  June 4,2010, 2:41pm
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Some might take their time to respond. I will when I'm over run with matches I'm communicating with. More likely they are non paying members. You might want to hold onto them until the next FCW (Free Communication Weekend). They will be able to exchange messages with you then. Or, if they decide to hand over their CC# and become a paying member.
 
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sophie921 is offline sophie921 Post #3  June 4,2010, 4:39pm
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I think they are probably busy with whatever and just view the profile to keep in mind exactly who you are. However that being said, if they do not respond within a week its probably best to move on.
 
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DoUCME is offline DoUCME Post #4  June 4,2010, 6:55pm
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I'm not even sure people are viewing my profile, I do know men are not responding to me and I try to send something to anyone that I think seems interesting. To tell the truth I'm getting totally sad about this whole process and don't know what to do to change my situation. Feel like giving up. Nothing is coming of this, not much different than trying to meet people on the streets of FBKS!
What to do?
 
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Co6aka is offline Co6aka Post #5  June 4,2010, 8:46pm
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I get this all the time. Tyre-kickers, window-shoppers, people-watchers, attention-lovers, hobby-daters, wannabe-daters, attached-wannabe-daters, and of course unpaid members.

My matches are either these types... or tattooed-biker-babes, world-trekking globe-trotters, America's Biggest Loser rejects, etc.

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RedApple is offline RedApple Post #6  June 4,2010, 8:50pm
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I'm doing that myself. When communicating with a match, especially when OC has been reached, I tend to think about her and might go to view the profile now and then to refresh my memory about some details, or just to view the pictures. That doesn't mean I'd send an email every time.
 
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eH_Advice_Host_Renee is offline eH_Advice_Host_Renee Post #7  June 5,2010, 6:07pm

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Hi TrailRunner99: As you can see, there are a lot of reasons why you may be getting views but no response yet. While it can be the case that some may not ever respond, some, like AndieIsMe described, may still be interested in communicating with you, but just need a little more time, for one reason of another, to respond back .

Of course you'll need to decide how long to wait for a response before closing a match. I know sophie921 suggested a week, but I'd encourage you to give your matches at least two weeks. Erring on the side of patience can never hurt, and is much better than closing out a match who may have still been interested in communicating with you.

DoUCME: Sorry to hear that you are discouraged by your experience so far.

If you aren't getting responses to your communication requests, the first thing to do is review your profile answers and photos because they are what inspire matches to communicate with you. You may have noticed that other members have created topics where they post their profile/photos and ask for feedback. I encourage you to take advantage of this opportunity too. You may discover that your profile isn't doing all it can for you!

Also, I am glad that you are initiating communcation with some of your matches. However, if that means you are by-passing a good majority of your matches, I ecourage you to broaden your horizons! There's a reason you received each and every match.

So, unless you are absolutely sure a match has no potential to be The One, send out that 1st set of questions. You have nothing to lose, and some of our successful members found The One because they took a chance and communicated with a match they were only moderately interested. They were happy surprised, and you could be too.

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melman is offline melman Post #8  June 5,2010, 6:54pm
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eH_Advice_Host_Renee wrote :
So, unless you are absolutely sure a match has no potential to be The One, send out that 1st set of questions. You have nothing to lose, and some of our successful members found The One because they took a chance and communicated with a match they were only moderately interested. They were happy surprised, and you could be too.
Or temper your expectations and quit imagining that every match might be "The One". You'll enjoy the process more if you simply consider that any match might be someone worth meeting.

That is, if they are an active and paying customer at the same time as you are... because 75 to 90% of your matches won't be. And if you can get through the eH communication process without something going haywire, because that happens a lot too.

I really wish I didn't have to follow along behind the employees posting stuff like this. They know this stuff too, but they apparently can't say it. Renee, any chance that you could print this post and take it to your bosses and ask to have the gag order relaxed on these critical points that every eH user ought to be told?
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sony12 is offline sony12 Post #9  June 6,2010, 5:31am
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melman wrote :
Or temper your expectations and quit imagining that every match might be "The One". You'll enjoy the process more if you simply consider that any match might be someone worth meeting.

That is, if they are an active and paying customer at the same time as you are... because 75 to 90% of your matches won't be. And if you can get through the eH communication process without something going haywire, because that happens a lot too.

I really wish I didn't have to follow along behind the employees posting stuff like this. They know this stuff too, but they apparently can't say it. Renee, any chance that you could print this post and take it to your bosses and ask to have the gag order relaxed on these critical points that every eH user ought to be told?
Delete the bolded. You need to be more confident in your ability to communicate through the system melman.
 
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melman is offline melman Post #10  June 6,2010, 10:22am
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I really wish you'd stop making comments like these on my posts. I am completely confident in my ability to communicate. But experience has shown that the longer the (OC/email/phone) communication goes on before meeting, the more likely it is that something will go wrong. Hence, I prefer to meet ASAP.

You know this, and you disagree. I have no problem with that. But I do have a problem with your telling me (and many others) what we "need to do" instead of simply saying "I disagree". Please respect our opinions. We know what we "need to do".

The remainder of my post was directed to the eH employees whom I wish would advise new users that the majority of their matches, are inactives. I know this will probably never happen, and that we will have to keep doing it for them. But I will continue to ask.
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