derek74 is offline derek74 Post #1  June 4,2010, 6:39am
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I've noticed a trend among my match profiles lately...a high percentage of them are serious TV watchers. I think maybe I'm an odd duck in this case. Although I'm a huge movie buff, I literally cannot stand watching broadcast television. The sound of commercial advertisements, canned studio audience laughter and contrived dramatic dialogue is like fingernails scraping a chalkboard to me. It literally sends electrochemical impulses surging up my spine, which collect in the base of my skull and cause a dull but escalating throb.

I'm sure I should just get over it, as my extreme aversion to television probably seriously limits my pool of potential relationship partners, but I've not yet discovered any herbal or pharmacological innovations which sufficiently anesthetize my central nervous system to these negative effects. Its problematic, for sure.

Its kind of a deal breaker for me with dating/relationships. My last three or four relationships ended up being with women who were major television fanatics. Worse yet, they loved the reality shows - American Idol, Dancing With the Stars, Bachelorette, etc. These relationships turned sour pretty quickly, because I simply could not stand being in the same room with these women while their beloved TV programs were pumping their abhorrent white noise into my living room.

Until I find a psychiatric regimen and/or frontal lobe surgical procedure that will help me deal with my problem, I think it would be exceedingly cool if there was an eHarmony feature that filtered matches based on TV watching habits - i.e. "How many hours per week do you watch television" and "How many hours per week would you accept your match to watch television." I'd set both of those sliders to zeroes, for sure. Its always disappointing to initially view a match profile of a beautiful and successful woman, only to discover after further reading that she has some sort of deranged "Zombie Housewives of ATL" fetish, or she lists "Remote Control" as one of the items she can't live without.

I'm curious - does anyone else in the eHa Advice community suffer from this same televisionophobia? Would other eHa users support a similar feature enhancement to the site? Do you know of any support groups where I can talk about my problem with others?
 
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I simply do not believe anyone who says or writes "I do not watch much television." It is almost always an attempt to pretend to be "intellectual" or somehow "above" everyone else.
 
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Isnt there a CS about watching too much TV?
 
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melman wrote :
I simply do not believe anyone who says or writes "I do not watch much television." It is almost always an attempt to pretend to be "intellectual" or somehow "above" everyone else.
I must be a flippin genius - I don't own a television!
 
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derek74 is offline derek74 Post #5  June 4,2010, 7:28am
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melman wrote :
I simply do not believe anyone who says or writes "I do not watch much television." It is almost always an attempt to pretend to be "intellectual" or somehow "above" everyone else.
"I am aware that there is an invention called television, and on it they show shows"...but I do not watch ANY television. Its not pseudointellectual snobbery - its just a fact.
 
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Most people like TV. Pretty much everyone you run into. Whether they watch it one or two hours a week or a few hours a day, chances are any random person you meet is going to watch some TV. So you can pre-record shows to skip past commercials, or use the mute button. And there are plenty of quality shows that aren't mindless 'reality' or bad 90' sitcoms.

Also, if you are coming across in your profile the way you are coming across in your post, then you have bigger things to worry about. "It literally sends electrochemical impulses surging up my spine, which collect in the base of my skull and cause a dull but escalating throb." (AKA, "It gives me a headache".) Statements like this don't make you sound intelligent, it makes it look like you are trying too hard. You can sound smart in text without flowering up your language. Type like you would talk normally and your voice comes through. Off topic I know, but people who use overly extravagant language/description they way you do is just...for lack of a better word, annoying. As far as the TV thing, I think you need to get over it. Don't be in the same room with your partner if you can't sacrifice an hour of your time to watch their favorite program with them. Problem solved.
 
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Do you have this on your profile somehow as a deal breaker? I think not watching tv yourself is totally understandable. My tv died a few months back and I haven't bothered to replace it because it got such little use. But being irritated at someone else's tv watching to the point where you want your lobe removed is maybe worth mentioning on your profile as something you want people to know about you. You can also send a question about tv watching habits in final questions. But filtering for tv habits is probably not in the cards for EH.

I usually just compromise on tv. I don't like the tv in the bedroom, the tv used as white noise in the background and the home theater 20 remote controls 1000 inch wii-plasma-ray stuff that many people adore. But it really doesn't bug me that much. I find it easy enough to just join in the watching or tune out and do something else.
 
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Johnc5 wrote :

Off topic I know, but people who use overly extravagant language/description they way you do is just...for lack of a better word, annoying.
Although you'll certainly find it haughty and perhaps even vainglorious of me to say, I feel compelled to point out that there exists a multitude of words in the English language that represent the culmination of millennia of human thoughtful expression. I vehemently attest that these terms should be sampled with fervor and liberally applied. While some individuals such as yourself might find it rankling, nettling, irksome or even annoying to exuberantly apply a superfluity of description to common communications, I believe that frequent, glittery discourse can enlighten and uplift the human spirit. After all, the ability to communicate floridly and draw from an extensive vocabulary is one characteristic that separates our species from other bipedal primates with opposable digits.
 
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Lilycat is offline Lilycat Post #9  June 4,2010, 9:45am
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I just thought you were exaggerating a bit, and enjoyed the prose!

OT: Well, most people watch some television - it is what it is. You probably don't want to set your filters to zero in that regard. I understand what you mean about the people who live for TV, etc. and you really can't find out who they are until you meet and talk to them a bit.

Speaking for myself here, I hate reality shows, but do watch a fair bit of TV as I am on my own at the moment. Mind you, if I was involved with someone who did not care for the medium at all, well, I can't say that I would miss it much.......

I can't be the only person like that out there, but I would never categorize myself as being a total non TV watcher..... not everything in the tube results in screaming migraines lol....

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I have to tell you, I am *so* tempted to point out the grammatical error in the above paragraph.

Meanwhile, there is a "can't stand" for "television junkie" that you can choose. You can also state in your profile that you watch no television and are only interested in likeminded matches.

You could also try PBS.
Last edited by chemgal; June 4,2010 at 9:55am. Reason: Edited to note that I'm responding to Derek not Lily.
 
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