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charmed59 is online now charmed59 Post #1  June 1,2010, 3:45pm
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Short story, I have too many wonderful sounding prospects to deal with all at the same time.

Long story, I've been in eHa for 10 days now, have about 60 matches. I started out slow, and sent the first set of questions to three guys after the first day. After I didn't get responses I sent out three more, and the next day two more. Then, on day four they started responding. At this point I have met two really nice guys, both who have followed up after the date, and have a meet scheduled for tomorrow with a third one, and have two more daily responding in open communication. I'm thinking it won't stay this busy, but, more requests for communication are coming in from guys that also sound wonderful at first blush.

So the question, is it bad form to not respond to new requests for a few days, until the others sort out?

And a second question, if I turn off matching, will those I've been matched with or am in communications with still be able to communicate?
 
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charmed59 wrote :
So the question, is it bad form to not respond to new requests for a few days, until the others sort out?
Not necessarily bad form, but of course you run the risk of them losing interest in you/closing you out...

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And a second question, if I turn off matching, will those I've been matched with or am in communications with still be able to communicate?
Yes.


nice problem to have, isn't it?
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TheThinker wrote :

Yes.


nice problem to have, isn't it?
Yes, though I suspect it's temporary
 
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