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Immerito is offline Immerito Post #1  May 29,2010, 7:14am
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While playing around with the feature (clicking the text to see what "suggested" text eHarmony generates), I received the following result for the phrase "clean and orderly":

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I see that you also keep your home Clean and orderly. But that's really only when you have guests, right?
That's probably something that most matches would not appreciate receiving.

Has anyone else played around with this feature and also received similar phrasing that would be more likely to drive away a potential match than draw him (or her) in?
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I haven't played around with this, but that does sort of strike me as a "but you're not completely crazy, right?"
 
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I'm slightly confused. You received the remark about only keeping your place clean and orderly from a match? Or this popped up somewhere else? (Feeling a bit daft here)

If someone sent this to me I wouldn't take it as something positive. I like my place cleaned up and have a mental schedule of things that have to be done (vacuuming, dusting, scrubbing showers & floors). I don't get weird if those aren't done, but, I don't want to have to run around the house in one day trying to get them all done for a guest to arrive.
 
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I'm slightly confused. You received the remark about only keeping your place clean and orderly from a match? Or this popped up somewhere else? (Feeling a bit daft here)

If someone sent this to me I wouldn't take it as something positive. I like my place cleaned up and have a mental schedule of things that have to be done (vacuuming, dusting, scrubbing showers & floors). I don't get weird if those aren't done, but, I don't want to have to run around the house in one day trying to get them all done for a guest to arrive.
If you click on one of the things in the Something to Talk About, it will automatically create an eHarmony Mail Message based off that topic. I haven't actually used it, but I have clicked on a couple to see what the question is. Seems like it was always some sort of statement followed by a related question. Something like, "I see you like to use eHarmony Advice. What are some of the things you've learned from going there?"
 
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Ohhhhh... Haven't tried that. I just thought is was pretty underlining on the subjects. (ha ha)
 
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I stumbled on it by accident.

I guess eHarmony is doing something right by trying to help people communicate.

It looked like any other OC message, so I'm sure you could also change the question or write more if that's what you wanted to do.
 
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AndieIsMe wrote :
I'm slightly confused. You received the remark about only keeping your place clean and orderly from a match? Or this popped up somewhere else? (Feeling a bit daft here)

If someone sent this to me I wouldn't take it as something positive. I like my place cleaned up and have a mental schedule of things that have to be done (vacuuming, dusting, scrubbing showers & floors). I don't get weird if those aren't done, but, I don't want to have to run around the house in one day trying to get them all done for a guest to arrive.
Apparently I wasn't completely clear; while composing a message in Open communication, I clicked on one of the links under the "Something to Talk About" column (clean and orderly); the result generated was the text I quoted above.

I assure you that no match has sent the above to me, neither have I sent it to any match.

eHarmony intends for you to change their text, and write to your match in your own words, not using their default text; but you have to wonder what the person responsible for that particular text was thinking.
 
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